I have been using your techniques for the past month and my “popularity” is soaring. I would like to thank you for finally saying what I have thought for years. Here is my question. About 5 years ago I used to go to this bar and there was a server that I was just ga ga for. Back then I was very shy and reserved. We talked here and there nothing ever happened more than that and that was only when she brought me my drinks.

Well, this weekend was my first weekend out since I moved back home and she was working at this new bar, I went to go approach her and all of sudden my mind was blank so I just backed off b4 she even knew i was going to approach her. How should I handle this especially since she has been bartending for at least 5 years she has seen it all and been hit on by EVERYONE! What would you do?

D.V.

West Virginia

>>>MY COMMENTS:

One of the keys to approaching women like this one who are hit on ALL THE TIME by guys is to be as TOTALLY COOL AND CALM AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN.

By the way, bartenders are EXCELLENT candidates for asking “Hey, do you have email?”… because it’s very low-key and non-threatening.

Try this… roll into the bar, and when you see her, say “Hey, long time no see… so you’re still tending bar after all these years, huh?”

See if she remembers you. If she doesn’t, then make some small talk about how you used to come in the other bar where she worked. But keep it short, because she’ll probably be busy.

Then say “So what, are you married with ten kids now?”

This is a cute way to ask a woman that you haven’t talked to in awhile if she’s single…

Then say “Well, I’m going to get back to my friends… good seeing you”… and just as you turn, shoot back over your shoulder “Hey! Do you have email?”

If she says “Yes”, then say “Great, write it down for me.”

Remember, the key is to be laid back and cool about it. Just act like you’re connecting with an old female friend from high school.

***QUESTION***

Now personally I like to describe myself as an idealist, you would probably dub me king of the wusses. Yet every once in awhile Ill pull my head out of the clouds and look at the world around me with some realism. Case in point is a young women I met almost a year ago (also the reason i started subscribing to the newsletter) Now at first things actually seemed to go well but they degenerated and after careful look around I think I know why.

After one of those lovely “lets just be friends” talks I started talking to one of her female friends, and oddly enough she got jealous. (approx 2 hrs. later) Now I have had other female friends tell me shes flirting with me…. but the best results I have ever gotten with her is when she told me to sue her. Now being a pre-law student I wrote out a very complementary and sarcastic legal complaint it broke down barriers almost immediately, and for about three weeks we were trying to figure out when we were both free to go out (we both had 30+credit hours of classes) Sadly it feel through because of an old boyfriend pissing her off at guys in general.

Now what I believe works so well with cocky and funny, is that it goes around so many of those internal self-defense mechanisms by giving them the opportunity to be the aggressor. More importantly, it gives them a challenge where you can’t be made into an enemy. (unlike the traditional advice of my friends to go out with another girl to get her jealous) Finally the well documented phenomenon that while girls may initially like a guy being super nice it quickly grows boring ( much like many college professors.) but cocky and funny offers a way of being nice but in a different less boring way. In closing, I just want to say what a deviously simple and effective device you have cooked up in cocky and funny.

kR Gainesville FL

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, I’d like to extend to you an offer of gratitude and appreciation for the aforementioned compliments… and I’d also like to recommend that you stop talking so much like an attorney… lol.

And by the way, your plans with her probably didn’t fall through because an old boyfriend “pissed her off at guys in general”… it probably happened because you didn’t MAKE SOMETHING HAPPEN with her.

There’s ALWAYS time to get together with a woman.

If she says “Well, I have a lot of homework to do”, just say, “Well, procrastinate tonight… I’m more fun”.

Women generally seem to love it when you say “Cancel your plans… I’m more interesting anyway”. It says all the right things in a Cocky and Funny way.

Thanks for the compliments, by the way!

***QUESTION***

Hey!! I need your help with some examples of cocky & funny!! Firstly let me tell you how your book has helped me after just a few days!! I saw an attractive girl in a club that I go to often. This was the first time that I left with a phone number & email address. I decided that enough is enough and I was just going to approach someone. I walked over to her and asked if she would do me a favour by requesting a song for me, she asked why I wouldn’t do it and I said that the DJ might play it if she askes cos some guys might consider her to be pretty which she asked if I was one of them, but I didnt answer but just again told her to do me this favour.

She asked me to go with her … I went with her, thanked her afterwards and went back to my friends. Basically not paying much attention to her for the next 45 mins. When I (accidentally) bumped into her again, I asked her name, if she had email. She automatically offered me her address, so I waited till she was writing it down when I told her to include her phone number, although her actual no etc… after that I told her I would talk to her soon……. and that I was going back to my friends, she sat down to have a conversation with me, but I left.

Now this is where I need your help about the cocky & funny. As I am only beginning, I could use a couple of examples of what I could say to her, and do I do it on the phone or wait till the actual date?? I was thinking along the lines of saying I had to ask for her number seeing that she went out of her way to impress me…. etc… so any other suggestions please would be very much appreciated.

CJ UK

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Nice job. I love the way you asked her to get the DJ to play a song… and telling her that “some guys might consider her pretty”… and then not answering her as to whether or not you are one of those guys.

Right now you should probably do a couple of things:

1. Email her and say something charming, like “Hey, it was good meeting you. Let’s get together for a cup of tea and make friends… just in case I need you in the future to get some more DJs to play music for me…”
2. GET A COPY OF MY EBOOK! If you’re doing this well with just the information you’re getting from my newsletters, then you really need to get the FOUNDATION. You must learn how the whole process works, and how to put all the steps together. You can literally download it right now, and be reading it in a few minutes:

Click here for Newsletter And Download eBook

And keep up the good work.

***QUESTION***

Do you have any advice for night clubs or night club tactics?

Thanks.

M.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, nightclubs are a very interesting phenomenon.

When you go to a nightclub, you’ll see many women that are acting out a paradox: They’re all dressed up in sexy clothes (obviously to get attention from men), but they’re acting like they don’t want men to talk to them most of the time.

Of course, this isn’t always true all the time, but if you go to nightclubs and bars, then I’m SURE you know exactly what I’m talking about.

Here are a few pointers:

1) Remember that beautiful women are usually hit on a lot at clubs and bars. Most of the guys are drunk and stupid… or using lame pick up lines… or acting like wussies… or offering to buy drinks… etc.

The first thing to do is NOT ACT LIKE OTHER STUPID GUYS WHO HAVE NO GAME.

Don’t kiss up to women in nightclubs, and don’t GIVE THEM YOUR POWER. In other words, hold yourself and communicate like you are in complete control of yourself and your surroundings… and like nothing she does can upset you.

2) Remember that for the first few minutes you’re probably going to get some resistance from most women.

One of the big tests when meeting women in a nightclub is whether or not you can keep talking to a woman who isn’t being overly friendly.

Now, some women will be completely cold and uninterested.

If you encounter a rude or cold woman, just move on… you need to be selective and not put aside your own standards just because a woman is attractive.

On the other hand, if a woman seems a little bit resistant, just keep the conversation going. You’ll find in many cases that after 5 or 10 minutes she’ll begin to warm up.

If you’re having a conversation (as opposed to just getting her email/number and leaving), then you need to turn up the Cocky and Funny comments, and just play it cool like a friend.

Bars are a great place for palmistry, astrology, handwriting analysis, and other “cold reading” techniques. Learn a few if you want to have great conversations in bars.

3) If you’re not VERY SKILLED, then just get a woman’s email and/or number and go. There are so many distractions in bars and clubs that it really makes it difficult to have an understandable conversation. There are other guys, usually her girlfriends, etc., and if you don’t REALLY know what you’re doing, then you’re likely to drop the ball somewhere.

Just get the digits and follow up later.

4) Try going with a friend and approaching women for each other. Go up to a woman and say “Hi, wow… you know what? I think my friend would really love you. He’s such a nice guy…” and then talk up your friend. When he shows up, introduce him. This is a great way to start conversations with women if you’re just getting started.

5) Don’t worry about what happens. Just go over and talk to every woman you see. The women expect it, and it’s GREAT practice!

Also, it’s a great idea to find guys who are good at meeting women in bars and to WATCH THEM to learn how to act. You’ll learn a lot from doing this.

***QUESTION***

Dave,

Firstly a good effort all round on the book and newsletters full of useful stuff and always good for a laugh when I realize that I have done the same things as thousands of other blokes and crashed and burned in the same way. I’ve been getting the newsletters for a few months and also got the book, after not having any success for over 3 years I’m getting confidence by practicing the techniques in different situations like with checkout ladies in the grocery store and other shops, its natural to talk to them, you make their day as they’ve been sat there all day and nobody’s spoken to them and you get feed back on c+f lines, a captive audience, use it guys. I’ve also bought a book on Palm reading as advised by you, I’ll let you know who I go on this one.

Ok my question. In your newsletters and book you mostly deal with getting the e-mail address and meeting up a few days later, which is great if you’re always in the same town. I move around a lot with my job from hotel to hotel. I’m also leaving my job in a few months to travel the world. With this in mind I won’t have the time to take a few days to mail and meet for coffee etc as I’m/will be constantly moving on every few days- weeks.

Do you have any advice for closing the deal in a first meeting and then walking away from it? i.e. the one night stand, as if I walk away after 3 minutes with only an e-mail address thats the opportunity gone. I’m sure there are plenty of readers that would benefit from some advice in this area.

Keep up the good work

D.
Wales

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, if you meet a woman in a checkout line or at the desk of a hotel, try your new palmistry techniques with her, and once she’s interested just say, “Well, I have to go check into my room now. But I’ll meet you at the coffee shop across the street at 7 and tell you more.”

There are 100 ways to use this stuff, of course.

One thing you really have going for you is the fact that you’re NEW to each area, and you’re ONLY STAYING A SHORT TIME.

Women really love to play tour guide, so ask them to.

Just say, “Hey, I don’t really know my way around here, are you busy today? Take me to some of the sights.”

Charm them with your fun personality, read their palms, and then have them show you around.

After a little area tour, invite them up to your hotel for a drink and some lip reading…

***QUESTION***

Cocky & Funny Categories

Dear David, using the C & F techniques, and analysing them, I have discovered that there several classes or categories of c & f :

1. When you are cockyandfunniing about you. You are saying that you are the best, or you are very sexy, clever, etc in a funny way. i.e.Me:”You know, I’m really tired of you women treating me like some kind of piece of meat. I have feelings too, and I don’t just like being thought of as a sex object.”
2. When you are cockyandfunniing about her. You are saying that she is wussy, nerd, ridiculous, etc in a funny way. i.e. “Hey, I can borrow you a wig, but please, don’t kill it’s roots !!
3. When you cockyandfunniing about other person, an object, a place, etc. i.e. Me:”You know, if that chick lost about 200 pounds, I think I’d be into her”
4. When you are inverting(in a funny way) the stereotypes and asummes than girl must date boy, girl must approach boy, etc i.e: SHE:”Are you from around here?” ME: “What, are you trying to pick me up? I’m not that easy.

There are other cocky & funny categories, and some categories mix each others, but these are the more important (I think). I think that the #2 & #3 are the more powerful and efective categories. I’m going to tell you, in wich case I use them (If the Maestro agree with me )

1. C & F about me. It’s useful, but you can’t use it too mutch, it’s more useful If you are a not a cute boy, if you are awful,(bald, overheight, etc). You have to use it with care, if not you are becaming too cocky.
2. c & f about her. It’s very useful,(especially on hotties and average women), and it’s very powerful, but I discover
   that if she has low selfsteem she may get upset (but she will get atracted too).
3. c & f about other things. This is the more secure c & f mode, but it is generates less atraction than others.
4. c & f inverting stereotipes It’s very funny and it’s very powerful, and easy to see.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is a great little set of categories, and it’s a great place to start if you’re trying to come up with funny and charming things to say for different situations.

I’ve included it here, so others can use it as a guide when working on their own situations…very nice, and thanks!

***QUESTION***

Dave, Hey, I just downloaded your e-book (finally) and I must say that the information in it is absolutely invaluable. I have already gotten a few email addresses and my confidence is really improving. However, there is a few problems that I have encountered that I really don’t have any answer for. For instance, just the other night a few girls were hanging out in my roommates and I dorm room at the college we attend. I was pulling the whole cocky and funny thing on the cutest of the bunch and she really seemed to be eating it all up. I mean, she was laughing, hitting me (in a playful manner) asking me questions and just being totally receptive to me. This lasted for probably over an hour.

However, for reasons I cannot explain, she started showing interest in one of my friends for some reason. I mean, she was asking him questions, focusing her attention on him, sitting by him etc. I really don’t know what I did wrong or what I should of done in this situation. Please give me some insight as to what the heck is going on in a situation such as this one.

Also, I attend a small university so there are many beautiful women to practice my game on. However, at the same time many of the girls know each other so I don’t want to ask for email addresses like it’s going out of style and get labeled as someone who is desperate. What should I do? I mean, it sucks seeing a girl you got shut down by everyday, now imagine if you see like five or ten girls you got shut down by everyday.

Please, some words of wisdom would be tremendously appreciated.

I.

OH.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

As far as your first situation goes… there are several possibilities.

My guess is that you waited too long to go to the next level. Instead of talking to her for AN HOUR, maybe you should have busted on her for 15 minutes and then said “Hey, come with me to the store…” and left with her.

Then you could have progressed, maybe held her hand, kissed her, etc.

If you wait too long with an attractive woman, she’ll lose interest.

And by the way, you never know… she might just have liked your friend or whatever.

The point is, it really doesn’t matter. Just say “next” in your head and move on.

And about your concern that women label you as “desperate”, who cares? It’s more important that you TAKE ACTION and NOT CARE WHAT OTHERS THINK than it is that you have all the hot woman on your campus “not think of you as desperate”.

Just do it.

***QUESTION***

Hi David,

I don’t think I’ve ever seen you address the “friends first” issue… I think there’s a difference between a woman saying “i only like you as a friend” and “lets be friends first and build a relationship from that”. Especially if you meet the woman from a personal ad which says she wants friends first.. (so its not like shes saying she’s saying you have to be her friend first when you first meet her) The only thing that bothers me is if she thinks of you as a friend then she’s still single so she might date other guys and you get to hear about it. This isn’t really a question to a specific problem, but because I’m still new to dating (I’m 21) and don’t have much experience (which is changing thanks to your great newsletters!) I have run into a few of the “friends first” encounters and I don’t know quite what to make of it.. should I be their friend first, and think it might turn into something more?

Thanks!

SK

Florida

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, the only real difference between a woman saying “I only like you as a friend” and “Let’s be friends first and see what happens” is… WHEN YOU HEAR “LET’S BE FRIENDS FIRST” IT TRICKS YOU INTO BELIEVING THAT THIS COULD ACTUALLY HAPPEN… SO YOU WIND UP SPANKING YOUR CHICKEN FOR ABOUT TEN TIMES AS LONG…

When a woman says “Let’s be friends first”, what they REALLY mean is “I don’t feel a gut level, sexual ATTRACTION for you right now… but you’re an awful nice guy and I don’t want to hurt your feelings…”

If you see a personal ad with “Friends first” it probably means that the last guy she dated wanted to get married after the first date… and she doesn’t want another loser WUSSY boy in her life.

Of course, there are a lot of possibilities, but generally speaking, you don’t want to get into “friend” mode, because it’s not easy to get out.

Telling HER that she seems like she’d make a nice friend is a GREAT idea, because it makes her wonder if you like her, and it creates tension.

If this doesn’t make sense to you, then I’d recommend that you check out my book or audio series and then think about it again. Until you “GET” this, you’re going to have a hard time attracting a woman.

***QUESTION***

I got your book and the first thing I did was read the short book about Sex Secrets… lol Now I figured I was pretty successful with the women and wanted to see how I compared to your tactics…. man you nailed it big time!!

I have been seeing this one gorgeous woman for about 2 months now and I thought about what you said in the book…. to keep her attracted and wanting more…. use anticipation. Well I know she wants me bad and so I thought I would just see how bad she does, so I talked to her over lunch…. since she only had 30 minutes for lunch I put it to the test right off. She sat down close to me and looked me in the eyes…. I commented on her beauty and ran my hand over her leg just slightly to let her know I was there and what I was thinking…. I could see her light up instantly. I took my hand away and changed the conversation knowing the anticipation was already building.

I told her how I would like to give her a massage… body massage to ease her stress and she agreed this would be good…. I then ran my fingers over her hand and then touched her slightly on the cheek…. lol… she was eating this up. I then noticed she had a slight stain on her uniform and reached to dust it off… this thru her big time…. she squealed a little and said it gave her goose bumps….lol…. I just gave her a slight smile and backed off again.

Her next comment was, I wish I brought a change of clothes here today cause I am gonna need em’…lol… I knew the anticipation was working! Although these were things I would normally have done without reading about it, the book is a great source and it works… so guys if you want to get the heads up on moving her to the next level, order the book…. you won’t be sorry!! ANTICIPATION!!! Keep up the great work my man!

R. Canada

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yes, understanding this concept of Anticipation is SUCH a key to making women feel turned on.

I don’t mention it much, but that bonus booklet that comes along with Double Your Dating is a VERY powerful set of ideas and techniques for getting a woman VERY turned on…

As you know, there are little things you can do physically that literally make a woman go crazy with desire. I’m sure you’re making this lady VERY happy… and I’m sure that she can’t believe that she’s met a guy who actually “gets it”.

Nice, and keep up the great work.

***QUESTION***

Hi Dave, I liked your book and I love your news letter which is very informative and quite creative, both by you and also other contributors; keep it up. Basically I’ve been a successful guy with the females by being very masculine and proud of it and I’m glad that in your book you encourage this attitude. After reading your book I have increased my success with the females tenfold and I thank you for that.I am 32 but I look about 20 and even when I was younger I’ve always fancied women that were much older than me but I always attracted younger girls who I like as well but with your help the girl l’m going out with is 33 (she thinks l’m 21 because l told her to guess my age) and she’s extremely attractive (10 out of 10) successful and confident and men of all ages try to pick on her whenever we go out and l leave her alone.

We met when I went for an interview for the company she owns and she ask for me to come to her office and after I complimented her on her business she said l was flattering her and l said “in your dreams, that’s the worst pick up line l’ve heard all day”, and she was so taken back by the challenge l presented to her that after I told her the compliment was just to get the job and that she shouldn’t use her position just to use me as a piece of meat.

Anyway l poured out C&F on her even told her that l wouldn’t take the job because l knew what she was up to and she said we needed to talk and she gave me her card with all her contact # and she also wrote her private home and mobile #. l took the card but l told her since it was her interested in me she should call me and l gave her my # as well. She called the same day and we’ve been seeing each other ever since.

But l do have a question in one of your news letters you said “women perceive good-looking guys who act cocky as MAJOR PLAYER, and too much cocky too soon can back fire on you”. Further you said that “If you are a pretty good looking , you might turn down the cocky and turn up funny”. Well l’m good looking oh yes; but l know it’s not everything but it helps and true to your above statement sometimes when l’m cocky it back fires on me even when the girl (or should l say especially) makes the first move. I know you’ve got the answer so please give it some of your time and reply please. Maximum respect to you David.

JS
London

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, here’s the deal…

There are exceptions to every rule, and you may have found one of them.

If you’re a regular guy and you’re dealing with an attractive woman, then Cocky and Funny is generally a great technique.

If you’re a VERY attractive guy, then being too Cocky and Funny can intimidate women and/or make them think that you must be a big player.

NOW, if you’re an attractive guy and you’re dealing with a VERY attractive woman who is also POWERFUL (owns a company, for instance) then you’ll probably want to turn the Cocky and Funny back up to provide MAXIMUM CHALLENGE to her.

The SUPER HOTTIES are used to ALL guys rolling over for them, and you can turn up the heat if you think she needs it in this situation.

***QUESTION***

Hey Dave, I’ve written atleast 1 million emails to you! And i haven’t heard anything back! Nah it’s cool i know you have another million emails that start off the same way. So heres the question! How do i get womens phone numbers for the possibilty of sex, like they know if i ring its for sex kinda thing. I don’t want to do the whole date thing, its boring and conversation is stupid!

I just wanna ring them up and say it like this, “hey i’m really horny and i was wondering, do you wanna come over for some ‘action’ and then piss off so i can get some peace and quite?” I dont really want them to hang around, it’s kinda awkward. Im not an a**hole but thats what i think is on most other guys minds as well as mine. Is there anyway to put this to a woman without them feeling hurt or as if there being used?

Thanks R. Australia.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Look, if I had the answer to this one I’D BE RICHER THAN BILL GATES AND WARREN BUFFETT PUT TOGETHER.

Now, will you do me a favor and please get a life?

And stop emailing to ask how you can get women to come over for sex because you’re horny, then piss off so you can get some peace and quiet without them feeing hurt or used…

“Huh huh… Hey Beavith… I’m horny. We need a chick.”

***QUESTION***

Hi Dave,

I’ve been following your instructions to the letter and I have to say it works like a charm! I have one problem though. I never know when a woman is attracted to me or not. I can’t seem to be able to pick up the signs. I mean I know lasses are
attracted to me only when their friends tell me or they do. It can be REALLY annoying not knowing whether to progress onwards or not.

I mean, at the moment there’s this lass who’s really religious and I want to get with her & I’ve been working overtime on the teasing and the cocky/funny routine. I just can’t tell where I stand with her. I was just wondering if you had any pointers that could help me? Thanks,

N. Bradley, England

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yes, it’s very simple. I call it “ The Kiss Test“.

You can see it on the second page of my main web site, or read about it in my book.

You need to TAKE THINGS TO THE NEXT LEVEL PHYSICALLY.

This will tell you EVERYTHING you need to know INSTANTLY.

And by the way, if a woman will agree to spend time alone with you, and she seems to be having a good time, then she’s probably interested at SOME level.

If you’re using the materials and being Cocky and Funny etc. and she’s hitting you, laughing, etc. that’s also a VERY good sign.

But use The Kiss Test. It’s so simple and easy… and it works SO well.

***QUESTION***

Well Dave,

It never ceases to amaze me how brilliant you are. I saw that you put my e-mail in the newsletter, so I guess I owe you the dirt. My experience can be summed up in one word…INF***INGCREDIBLE, but I won’t stop with one word. See if you can keep count? The first chick I met sat next to me on the plane. CF. She crammed her tongue down my throat. I got off the plane with a different chick. CF. SHE asked Me to lunch with her. On the shuttle to the Hotel, yet another female. C&F. I’ll come back to her. Poolside, another young lady. C&F. She asked me to save a dance at the party for her. He-he-he…

I could keep going but I don’t want to jinx my future success. To sum it up, I talked to over 20 different women, made out with 3, and woke up next to 1 (I’m such a bad man). I got 4 out of 4 e-mails/#s from girls I asked (the only girls that we’re worthy of myself){example of C&F and my character}, and that girl from the shuttle… I only talked to her for 3 minutes on that ride, and she had a friend come and give me a note with her info. The trip ended with a h-job on the plane ride home. Now I don’t encourage everyone out there to use the info in DYD to become a male slut like me. I am this way because this is the first time I have been single since I was 18 (6 years ago).

This is also the first time that I have really experienced success… Thanks to DYD and C&F. I used to be a MAJOR WUSS. I never talked to or went out with a girl unless she talked to me/asked me out. Needless to say I was home a lot. I never learned the SKILLS to be successful with women until I bought Double Your Dating (plug). Since I read the book three months ago, I have literally hooked up with over a dozen women, with very minimal effort.

If you are reading this it is OBVIOUS that you want to improve your life, just like I did when I stumbled upon David’s website. Do yourself a favor, BUY THE DAMN BOOK! Hell, if you don’t achieve success with it, I will buy it back from you. I’ve got some buddies out there who can use this treasure. Stop being a WUSS (like I was). Dave I owe it all to you. From everyman getting laid because of your advice…

THANK YOU!!!!!!!

G. from L.A.

P.S. My first born is going to be named David, even if its a girl!!!

>>>MY COMMENTS:

What else can I say?

I love getting letters like this one… NICE!

If you’re reading this right now, and you’d like to get an ADVANCED education in this technique that I call “Cocky & Funny”, then you MUST go and check out my “ Cocky Comedy” CD/DVD program.

Inside I’m going to show you the “secret psychology” of humor… of laughter… and of how to combine humor with TENSION to create a powerful ATTRACTION… using nothing more than your communication skills.

The technique of Cocky & Funny is one of the very fastest, easiest ways to create sexual tension with women… and this program is going to teach you how to do it.

You’ll learn a ton just by watching the preview video clips on the web site… so go watch them
here:

Cocky Comedy

…and if you’re reading this right now and thinking “You know, I really need to get in this game and start making something happen for myself with women and dating” then I have to say… YOU’RE RIGHT!

Learning how to be successful with women and dating is NOT magic.

It doesn’t require good looks or money.

And it CERTAINLY doesn’t require you to chase after women, buy them things, and give them fake compliments.

Oh, I also have two “Online eBooks” that you can download RIGHT NOW and be reading within MINUTES. My original “Double Your Dating” eBook is here:

Click here for Newsletter And Download eBook

My latest ebook, “Attraction Isn’t A Choice” is here:

Attraction Book

Both are jam-packed with concepts, theories, and step-by-step techniques… and you need to go and download them NOW.

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

Dave,

You are a saint. A giant among insects… Ok, maybe not, but it gets through the obligatory ass-kissing since you have helped me so much. Let me begin…

I’ve had my eyes on this particular girl for quite some time, and I could tell she was already into me quite a bit, but we had never made anything of it. Last week, she decided to “be bold” and ask ME out, instead of the other way around (you can see I’m already doing something right). She asked if I wanted to go see a movie some time; instead of freaking out and jumping at the chance, I said I’m rather tired of this whole `movie date’ thing.

If she wanted to get me, she was going to have to be a little more creative. She was rather shocked and felt somewhat rejected. Later in the conversation, we were got to talking about this stalker (wussy who needs a life) that seems to be in love with her, and she hates him. He had asked her if she wanted to accompany him to a football game the next night that they both were already going to.

She said she really wished that I would come with her so this guy would leave her alone. I thought, “Ok. This will be my good deed for the year.” and said I would go. She ends up driving me to the game. Upon arrival, she just HAD to braid her hair, and asked me to wait around while she did so. I stood there for a second, and then walked off. She started yelling at me to wait; I simply replied, “I’ll see you inside the gate.” waved and walked off. Once inside, I didn’t see her come in, but soon felt someone grab my butt (it was her).

We went on into the stadium, she soon saw someone she knew and went to talk to them, dragging me along. I stood around for a second, then wandered off, since I had seen someone I knew as well. She comes to find me soon, and we go off to our seats. Her stalker had seen us as we were going to our seats and decided to stay with us for part of the night. She began talking to him, and I did my own thing. I wandered off numerous times throughout the night and generally acted very secure and like I didn’t need a thing in the world (especially her!). Following the game, as we walked back to her car I could tell that she wanted me badly due to some things she had been saying. She drove me back to where my car was waiting and we talked for twenty minutes or so in her car. There was some hand holding and such going on during the conversation. She said, “You know we’re just going to end up making out-you’re just delaying the inevitable.”

Bingo.

I shrugged it off, and we continued talking. About ten minutes later, she said, “It’s getting late; I really should be getting home.” Obviously a ploy to get things started, as it was only 10:15 PM. I shrugged it off, again. A few minutes pass, and she says, “It’s late, I really need to go.” I say, “Alright.” I open the door and get out of the car. She says, “Where are you going?” I reply nonchalantly, “I just don’t think you want it badly enough yet.” Score #2.

I walk off to my car; she immediately jumps out of the car and begins walking to my car as well. I get to the car and put the key in the door and she sticks her leg in front of the door with this defiant attitude. I say, “You know, I’ve never been raped in an empty parking lot before…”

You can imagine what went on from there. J

Thanks Dave.

Now, on to the questions: First, now that I’ve used my best line ever (”I just don’t think you want it badly enough yet.”), do you have any suggestions on what to do and say next time to create that same anticipation/desire in her?

Also, you always say that I need to be the first to end the conversation, but many of the girls that I am interested in are somewhat sporadic and tend to call, IM, etc. when they don’t have a lot of time. Quite often, they are the ones to end the conversation before I have a chance to. How do I take this? Should I just reply, “Alright. I’ll catch you later.” Acting like I could care less?

D. Knoxville, TN

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Great story.

I’m sure that anyone reading this would say “Yeah, but she already liked you”… I wish you would have told the story from the beginning, because I’ll bet you MADE her like you with more of the same type communication that you described here.

The one thing that you clearly understand here is how SEXUAL TENSION works.

You understand how to take a small spark of desire from her and AMPLIFY it until it’s literally EXPLOSIVE.

If you keep amplifying and letting the tension build with a particular woman, this is the kind of result you’ll get… and she will LOVE you for it.

Bravo!

Things like making her come up with a more “interesting” date idea, walking away from her when other guys would have clung to her, shrugging off her comments about the two of you getting together, etc. are the magic ingredients.

Most guys DESTROY all the sexual tension at every possible opportunity… they take every chance they can to SCREW THINGS UP because they don’t know better…

The fact is that most men just don’t UNDERSTAND how women get turned on.

And most men don’t understand that if you really want a woman to WANT you, then you NEED to get her turned on. It’s not going to happen by itself.

Hey, if you want to learn more about how to create this thing I’m calling “Sexual Tension”, and more about how to get women turned on, then go here now:

Sexual Communication

Here’s another interesting aspect of that thing called ATTRACTION:

The bigger the challenge you are, and the more intense the sexual tension, the more aroused a woman will become… so that when you finally do connect physically it’s pure electricity.

Again, most men can’t HANDLE sexual tension. They feel uncomfortable when the situation isn’t “clear cut”, and they screw things up.

One of the things you mentioned doing was “shrugging off” her obvious “come ons” to you.

This kind of thing makes no sense to most guys.

But it makes sense to me.

And it made a LOT of sense to HER.

When a woman throws out a sexual comment, etc. most guys screw it up. That’s because they don’t know the SECRET about these types of comments.

When you’re a major challenge, it naturally means that she’s not IN CONTROL of the situation.

Attractive women are USED to being in control, so when they’re NOT in control, they get agitated. It really bothers them.

So they TEST. They use all kinds of interesting tricks and tactics to see if you’re just FAKING like you’re actually in control of yourself and the situation.

One of the most obvious tests is throwing out a sexual comment.

She might mention that she loves sex, or that she thinks you guys have a chance of “hooking up”, or some other “tease”.

But make no mistake about it, these comments are not at all the innocent remarks that they appear to be.

She’s watching VERY closely to see if you’ll take the bait.

It’s a woman’s last resort when she feels like she isn’t controlling the situation to see if you’ll crumble to SOMETHING. — If you say something like, “Really? You think we’re going to hook up? That would be cool.” Then she KNOWS SHE’S IN CONTROL.

If you say, “Yeah, you think so? I don’t know, I’m not that easy…” then it just dials up the tension, mystery, and challenge.

OK, so you’ve asked me a couple of questions as well…

What should you do NEXT time you see her to keep the tension building…?

Well, if something works, KEEP DOING IT.

If she enjoyed it the first time, do it again.

This time wait a little longer. Make her think about it a little bit more.

Women LOVE anticipation. They love to feel the rush that something is going to happen… but not know WHEN.

If you REALLY want to take things to the next level, take a page from popular movies and romance novels.

Don’t just kiss her. Kiss her PASSIONATELY.

Pull her body into yours as you kiss her.

Then push her away and say, “You’re bad!”

Stop for awhile. Make her think about it. Then start again when she isn’t expecting it.

These are the types of things that make women think about you all the time when you’re gone…and call you in the middle of the night because they want to see you. Really.

Most men are so damn BORING when it comes to this stuff! They do NOTHING to make a woman FEEL the powerful feelings that she’s always wanted to feel.

You be the one to do it, and you’ll be the one she always wants around.

Your second question was about ending calls and conversations first.

The REASON why you should end all conversations and other interactions with women first is that it conveys a clear message:

“I’M A BUSY GUY. I HAVE A LIFE.”

It turns YOU into the one that’s desirable.

Most guys cling, and try to keep a woman on the phone for a long time. They desire a woman’s attention and approval, and they make it clear that this is what they’re after.

Of course, this only demonstrates pure WEAKNESS to an attractive woman.

And weakness (or Wussness) isn’t ATTRACTIVE.

If you run into a woman who’s always on the run, don’t let it get to you. To put it differently, don’t become obsessed with her just because she’s never available!

The answer is to just take things to the next level.

Here’s a GREAT little technique…

An amazing and simple way to handle this kind of thing is to just say “OK, bye” without any other comments.

She says “I have to go, my friends are waiting for me outside”. Just say “OK, bye” and SHUT UP.

80% of the time, she’ll say “No, wait! I’m just really busy, call me in a few days” etc.

You can’t “kind of” do this.

You have to be READY.

She’s TESTING you by playing hard to get. It’s a game. Have fun with it.

As soon as she says “I have to go, my laundry is in the dryer”, you SHOOT back “OK, bye” in a VERY abrupt tone and SHUT UP.

It will create a funny, uncomfortable silence for just a second.

Most of the time, she’ll say something in a tone of voice that says “That was weird”, and then she’ll give some kind of explanation or ask you why you were so short with her.

Of course, this is a great opportunity to bust her balls and create some fun banter.

Again, you’ll often have her say something like “I’m really busy right now. I’m sorry. Call me tomorrow and let’s do something”. At this point, you can say “Yeah, if you’re lucky. Bye!”

Not cold. Not mean. Just short and to the point.

Then, when you call her next, it was HER that asked for the call.

You get to call up and say “Well, last time we talked you were begging me to call you… and I felt so bad for you that I finally broke down.”

What we’re talking about here is DESIRE… and more importantly, INCREASING IT.

In most interactions with women there is an opportunity to SPARK the chemistry… the sexual tension… the desire… and then there are many opportunities to AMPLIFY that desire.

But here’s the BAD news:

If you do not understand all of the little steps from the first meeting to the bedroom, and know exactly how to smoothly progress from one step to the next, then you’re going to keep failing with women.

It’s that simple.

If you DO understand all of the steps, and you know EXACTLY what to do in order to smoothly transition from one to the next, then you are MUCH more likely to succeed.

One of the most IMPORTANT steps is controlling your own emotions. If you’re nervous and freaked out, then you’ll make her nervous.

We humans can SMELL fear and nervousness… andwomen are the best at it.

If you’d like to get an ADVANCED education in how to control your own emotions, how to spark ATTRACTION, and how to go from one step to the next smoothly, then I recommend you check out my Advanced Dating Techniques program.

It’s over 12 full hours of me teaching all of my very best theories, concepts, and strategies for becoming more successful with women and dating.

What makes my program different?

Two things:

1. It’s easy to understand and use IMMEDIATELY.
2. It “feels right”. In other words, you’ll learn how to use the natural dynamics in any situation to make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you… without having to MANIPULATE her “secretly”.

As you learn the concepts and techniques and begin to use them in situations with women, you will see women LIGHT UP in front of you.

You’ll IMMEDIATELY notice the different way that they respond to your comments.

You’ll begin to see all of the reasons why you failed in the past, and you’ll understand the “one right thing” to do in each situation… so that you move FORWARD and stay in control of the situation.

Most of all, it will give you the CONFIDENCE to attract the kinds of women that most men only dream about dating.

I’m telling you, I used to have no clue about attracting women… but now that I do, I can date any type of women I want. And it’s a damn good feeling.

All the details of my program are here, along with some great free samples:

Advanced Series

If you’ve gone through my Advanced Series, and you think that you might need more focus on the “Inner Game”… then you MUST check out my “Deep Inner Game” DVD program.

This is the first time that a program has been created to help men fix their Inner Game problems SPECIFICALLY to improve their dating success.

Go and watch the preview video clips for this program, and it will tell you the entire story. You can go and watch them here:

Deep Inner Game

And if you’d like an introduction to my main concepts, then you need to go download and read my online eBook “ Double Your Dating“. You can download it right now and be reading it within a few minutes. It’s here:

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I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

Dave, Why is it that a woman who is only interested in the funny, cocky and challenging (i.e., interesting) men, later in life tries to raise sons that are sweet, thoughtful and “nice”? (i.e., run of the mill)!!

WS New York

>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is a VERY interesting question, and I’m glad you emailed me to ask it.

I’m going to give you my personal take on this. But, more importantly, I’m going to talk about how these kinds of paradoxes exist right in plain sight all around us… and how to interpret them so you can increase your own personal success with women and dating.

So, to answer your question first…

I’ve spent a lot of time researching this topic, and doing a lot of personal testing to see if I could find some answers.

Right now, as I write this, I think that it goes like this:

“Being Nice” in the way that you’re describing, usually means things like: giving compliments, buying gifts, providing food, doing favors, tolerating emotional manipulation, pretending to be in a good mood even if you’re not, etc.

I believe that this is mostly a SOCIALLY and CULTURALLY CONSTRUCTED set of “rules”. There may be some “hard wiring” in us that makes us “naturally” want to do nice things for women so they’ll give us approval, but I think it’s mostly PROGRAMMED into us…

Now, think about it this way: These “nice” things are typically very FEMININE things to do…

So, what’s a mom in today’s culture going to teach her son?

Of course… how to be “nice” to girls.

And, what if there’s no dad around to help out in the “training” of a son? You guessed it… even MORE “nice” programming from mom.

The bottom line is that most of the people walking around on this planet have NO IDEA how ATTRACTION works, and therefore will never be able to TEACH another person how this fabulous process works.

This includes mothers. Mom loved you and wanted the best for you, she just had no idea how to explain what makes women feel ATTRACTION. Mom may have gotten the tingles when she saw Clint Eastwood shooting everyone… and Neil Diamond running around with his sneer, hairy chest and that pickle in his jeans… (and that reminds me… EWWWWWW… your mom is gross, dude).

But, this doesn’t mean that she can or would explain to her boy how to make this happen with other women!

Check this out: If you would like to learn my own PERSONAL secrets for how to overcome this problem of not knowing how to become a man who NATURALLY attracts women, then you should go here NOW:

On Being A Man

OK. Let’s talk about what we can actually LEARN from this kind of phenomenon.

The thing that really fascinates me about people is THEIR ABILITY TO HAVE NO IDEA WHAT’S GOING ON… even though it’s going on IN PLAIN SIGHT ALL AROUND THEM… and the even MORE amazing tendency to ARGUE VIOLENTLY WHEN one of these OBVIOUS THINGS IS PRESENTED TO THEM.

I’ve read some fascinating books about the concept of “self-deception”, and I’ve come to realize that we humans have an amazing capacity for not seeing what’s there… to the point where it can be very bad for us.

Like I just said, we often ARGUE about things that are OBVIOUS to others… which makes it even worse.

I need to stop ranting and raving, and land the plane on this one…

This mechanism is, of course, a survival mechanism that helps us to weed out all of the useless information that’s coming in through our senses at any given time, but it can go overboard and prevent us from seeing USEFUL information as well.

Next Point: A lot of our cultural and social programming is “off-base” to some degree, which causes us to see things and interpret things incorrectly when we do see them.

Finally, we humans don’t like to change our beliefs about things. We don’t like to admit that we might be wrong in the first place, and we feel unstable or insecure when we realize that a fundamental truth we have held all our life is incorrect.

Lump all of this together, and you have moms who teach their sons the “proper” way to act and men who have NO IDEA how to be successful with women… and then women who REALLY get upset when you actually start teaching men what WORKS to attract women (for more evidence of this, just read some of these newsletters I’m sending you!)

Wow, I’m really going on an unusually intellectual rant today! Nice. This is making me feel pretty smart… I think I’ll keep it up…

So, what’s all this information good for?

Well, to start off, I think that it’s important in life to continually question YOUR OWN beliefs about how things work and what is possible.

I think it’s also good to constantly question your LIMITING beliefs.

Unfortunately, most people do the opposite…they question their ability to succeed and they doubt their own ability to get what they want.

Most people constantly “self-sabotage” themselves.

If instead, you question your LIMITATIONS and your LIMITING BELIEFS, and you constantly look with your own eyes to see if there’s something going on that nobody mentioned to you, then you’ll begin to see things that will blow your mind.

It took me about 4 or 5 years to realize that ATTRACTION ISN’T A CHOICE. But as soon as I say it, you can immediately get what I’m talking about, and maybe even have a profound realization that will lead to success.

The phrase “Attraction Isn’t A Choice” makes you have the “ah ha” that you can’t make a woman feel attraction for you by CONVINCING her… so you STOP.

Now, I didn’t figure this out by having someone TELL it to me. I figured it out by questioning the things I was hearing, and by following my own intuition that there was a SOLUTION to this puzzle called “women and dating”.

So, here’s a “home work” assignment for you:

1. Write down all of the things that SHOULD work when it comes to making women feel attracted to you. This might include buying gifts and food, giving constant compliments, and acting “nice”.
2. Write down your own personal experience of what ACTUALLY HAPPENS when you do these “socially correct things that mom taught you” with women.
3. Pretend for a moment that everything you’ve been taught about women is wrong. Furthermore, pretend that women are actually wired in REVERSE. If this were true, what kinds of things would result in a woman feeling ATTRACTION for a man?

Does this open up some new possibilities for you?

I invite you to question “common sense” and “what your mother taught you” about women.

I also invite you to come and learn some of the VERY ILLOGICAL, YET INCREDIBLY POWERFUL techniques that I’ve learned, developed, refined, and described in my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD program.

The ideas that I’ve just discussed are part of what I consider to be the “Inner Game” of dating success.

Most guys spend almost NO time working on their Inner Game… instead, they spend time learning things like “pick up lines” and other almost USELESS stuff.

If you don’t have your “Inner Game” together, you’ll never be effective with “techniques and tricks”.

In my Advanced Dating Techniques program, I spend several HOURS teaching you one Inner Game technique after another… showing you how to overcome fear, improve your self image and self esteem… and get past limiting beliefs that stop you from even TRYING to meet women.

If you’re like me, and you’ve had a lot of negative programming earlier in life, then you MUST get that stuff handled. It’s not going to handle itself… YOU have to do it.

And this program will show you EXACTLY how.

Oh… and it will also teach you TONS of great “in the field” techniques for approaching women, starting conversations, getting dates, meeting women online, and taking things to a “physical” level smoothly and easily… without rejection.

Not too long ago I put up a bunch of new sample video clips… and you should go watch them right now. They’re here:

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And if you haven’t downloaded your copy of my online eBook, “ Double Your Dating“, then you need to go and do that RIGHT NOW. You can download it and be reading it in just a few minutes from now. Just go here:

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I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

Hey Dave, how’s it hanging?

Read your stuff…interesting. Makes a lot of sense to appear different then all the others. I have one question, however. This C&F stuff (can I call it “friendly mocking”?) really only works on women who are sure of themselves and who will nottake your jokes to the heart. But how many of those are in the world? I mean, with today’s “perfect” pop-stars most women have at least some insecurities. So, how can you use this technique and not accidentally hit a weak spot? Is there a
neutral C&F approach?

J Brooklyn, NY

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I think you’re hitting on an important point here.

I think that a lot of guys “secretly” want to figure out a way to meet women without RISKING anything.

This is probably why personal ads and online dating web sites are so popular.

The problem with not wanting to RISK anything is that it creates a mindset that leads to being AVERAGE.

And “average” doesn’t create ATTRACTION.

I teach guys to use a specific kind of humor that I call “Cocky & Funny”.

One of the purposes of the Cocky & Funny technique is to clearly demonstrate that you are NOT intimidated by a woman, and to INSTANTLY communicate that you are DIFFERENT from other men.

You’d like to know the magic way to “not accidentally hit a weak spot”…

But guess what?

Accidents happen.

Risk is part of life.

Don’t worry so much about hitting a “weak spot” while you’re teasing or busting on a woman… just concern yourself with making sure you’re being FUNNY while you’re doing it.

If you meet a woman who is so sensitive that she can’t take a joke, or you “accidentally” over do it, don’t worry about it. No biggie.

She’s probably either too uptight or emotionally fragile for you to have a good time with anyway.

If you want to make a cake, you have to break a few eggs, man.

Remember, your objective isn’t to be MEAN to women, or to hurt them… your objective is to use a specific type of humor to create ATTRACTION.

And give up this “neutral” idea. Neutral is BORING. And Boring is NOT the way to create ATTRACTION.

***QUESTION***

David “The Man”–

First of all, your Advanced CD Series is THE most definitive exhaustive resource on dating ever written. It boggles my mind that nobody ever figured this stuff out before. You are the research scientist that broke the mold of all that bookstore fluff, the Darwin of Dating.

I can now approach and get the email of a woman who would have made me shake in my boots just a few months ago. My most recent success was a girl I dated who I turned up the C+F to the max, but my old inner wussy made a brief appearance and that was that. Oh well. “Next!” I’ll get better and better.

I have improved quite a bit, but I’m looking for some guy friends as you suggest. However, I’m having a problem finding guys who are good with women. I’m not seeing them. All I see everywhereI go are wusses. Any thoughts or ideas?

I’ve also thought about finding friends who are students of yours so we can get together for team efforts. Any suggestions here?

Thanks again for the incredible impact you’ve had on my life.

J.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yeah, I have one thought for you…

This “Everywhere I go all I see is wusses” thing can be a challenge. I shake my head almost every single time I go out, because I think we’re in the middle of a WUSS EPIDEMIC in this country.

Keep looking.

It’s worth it.

If you have to, ask friends and associates at work if they know any guys who are really good with women.

And remember, be cool. Guys who are good with women often like to help other guys learn. But don’t be a boat anchor around his neck…

If you do your homework and find some guys who can help you, it will REALLY pay off.

***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***

Sir,

I received one of you Q&A emails by mistake, I’m sure. I am an intelligent, female professional and I reall-ll-ll-lly had a good laugh after reviewingyour web site as well.

If you think that ALL women will be turned on by these things, you are very mistaken. The classy, sophisticated, and well educated as well as intriguing and very attractive will have totally different opinions on all these subjects. I think you would do better to consider your experience as incomplete.

However, I’m sure you are making an obscene amount of money by offering this misinformation for sale to men.

Laughing Uncontrollably in Alaska

>>>MY COMMENTS:

An intelligent female professional that lives in ALASKA?

Don’t even get me started there…

And since you seem to be claiming here that you’re an AUTHORITY on “The classy, sophisticated, and well educated… as well as intriguing and very attractive” women… I have to ask you where you’re getting this particular education… Alaska?

Maybe those words mean something different where you’re from.

Whatever.

Look, I used to be a “nice”, sweet, BORING guy who did nice things for women, acted respectful, and generally was everything I thought a “good guy” should be.

And my success with meeting and attracting women was horrible.

I had a few good relationships with attractive women, but these were ACCIDENTAL. It only happened because I was in the right place at the right time, and because the women just happened to have NOTHING BETTER GOING ON.

Now that I do what I teach, I’m able to attract beautiful women whenever I want.

You do the math.

**COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***

Hey Dave,

I forward your news letter to my ex-husband and to my other male friends and they all thanked me for it. I agree with all of your advice. It’s kind of scary how well you read women. You have also helped me to realize what I’m attracted to and why. Take care!

S MD

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yeah, it’s OK for you to admit that you’re attracted to ME.

I don’t blame you.

You forgot to include your picture, dear.

Waiting patiently.

Your friend,

David DeAngelo

P.S. Stop forwarding these emails to your Ex. It’s bad enough that you love me… but to add insult to injury for the poor guy…

**SUCCESS STORY***

David,

So, I go into a shoe store the other day and I’m just kind of browsing. The clerk– a cutie of age 21–asks me if she can help me. I kindly ask her to get me a certain pair to try on. As I put the shoes on, she enthusiastically squeaked, “WOW THOSE SHOES LOOK GREAT ON YOU!!!”.

I mocked her in the same hi-pitch tone, “YOU’RE ON COMMISION YOU NEED TO SAY THAT!!” She gave me that playful little slap on the arm and told me I was “a little sh**”. I go on teasing her for 5 minutes or so and she asks me if I would like a job at this store. When she gave me the application, she also hands me her HOME ADDRESS and phone number and asked me to hand deliver it that night. To keep it short, that nite I gave her more than my job resume!!!

Now, David, the previous situation is very unusual for me, as I rarely have much to say, period. I’ve always been very shy and very quiet but am starting to come out of that. I’m not scared to approach women or anything but I just don’t know
how to start or keep conversation, you know? I’ve read books on this, listened to tapes and nothing seems to help. Dave, I need some advice!!!

DK Indiana

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oh, nice one!

Great example of how to use Cocky & Funny with a woman!

And as for meeting women, stop worrying about STARTING OR KEEPING CONVERSATIONS GOING.

Just walk up to women, get their phone numbers, and then get together with them later for a cup of tea.

No “starting of conversations” required.

Use my 3 minute email/number technique, and then break out your killer sense of humor later when you’re alone with her.

You’re doing fine… don’t worry about “conversations”.

And if you do wind up in a conversation, just start out by talking about normal things, then transition into the Cocky & Funny material as you progress.

**QUESTION***

Hi Dave,

I have been receiving your emails for a while now and boy have they been working. As a matter of fact, I was actually using the C/F all the time, without even realizing it. For example,

In one of my classes there is this girl that acts weird most of the time (she’s a solid 9.5) and one day she was talking to me, and I just turned around and said to my friend: “Did you say mental hospital?” I got a shot in the arm for that one.

I kept unknowingly using C/F on her for maybe three days and then after one C/F comment she replied (with her hand on my shoulder): “I like you, you make me laugh” then she winked and turned around. I was shocked! I mean, I had basically been making fun of her. Little did I know that I had been doing everything right (this was before I started getting your emails).

So anyway, my question. I have no problems meeting women in malls, on campus etc, but what about online? Are there any C/F comments I can use to start a conversation? The only ones I can think of are when they have ridiculous/absurd chat names.

Thanks

A

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, one of the GREAT things about teasing women is that you can basically GUESS things about them and they’ll respond.

For instance, if you’re talking to a woman online, and you haven’t seen her picture, you can say:

“OK, you’re probably some hairy, manly, seven hundred pound beast… and that’s why you haven’t sent me your picture…”

(Use this kind of thing when she says that she’s a model or dancer, etc. and it’s obviously not even close.)

The bolder you are, and the funnier, the better you’ll do when guessing.

Try it, you’ll like it.

**QUESTION***

Dave-

Whussup Man? Well I’m not gonna waste your time or mine telling you about how great your teaching and knowledge is, because we both already know what’s up! I’m a 19 yr old who has downloaded your ebook and I’ve read about the last 20+ emails.. I’m learning a lot. But I’m not where I want to be yet.

Well here is what happened. I had lady friend of mine over to the house the other night. Now we have been friends for a little while now and I have to tried in the past to pursue this woman but like a lot of males in the world.. I would always
turn wussy on her. This women is about 5′ nothing’, with a beautiful mind and a beautiful body, (she is a 8 or 9 on my scale, and I’m picky.)

*the radio is ON*

We haven’t talked in a while so we caught up on each others lives..had some laughs with the cocky/funny attitude and I even fixed dinner! Well I told her before I made dinner that when we finished eating she owed me a 30 min. massage. She said okay. Now, we get done eating and she tells me to dim the lights and lay down. She tells me she is goin’ to wash her hands and never comes back.. SHE LEFT!!!!!!! WHAT HAPPENED?!?!

JF from Texas

>>>MY COMMENTS:

What happened?

You went and spanked your chicken with reckless abandon?

You cried yourself to sleep?

lol… it’s probably horrible that I’m laughing at your misery, but hey, these things happen.

Don’t worry about it, man.

Next time, try making something other than “Hamburger Helper” with rainbow popsicles for dessert.

I think you’re gonna live.

The problem is that you acted like a WUSSY for so long, that the thought of you being anything more than a friend made her RUN all the way home.

You created your own problem, by trying to make a girl who was convinced that you were a Wuss into something more than a friend. It’s not easy.

**COMMENT***

Today I met an ex-girlfriend (and now good friend and occasional date) for lunch at an Indian buffet. This is a woman who has commented in the past that she didn’t like my cocky side (either I wasn’t doing it right, or she was lying), so I was looking for a good opportunity to segue into a C&F routine and see how it affected her. At one point she complained that the bread was cold, and that I should go get some fresh stuff…

ME: What’s in it for me? [unoriginal line]

HER: I’ll stay and finish lunch at your table. Otherwise, I’ll go get the bread and sit over there by myself. [great answer!]

ME: Well, that’d be embarrassing.

HER: Yup.

ME: Everyone in the restaurant would think that you had to move because you’ve got real bad gas.

And it went from there. You could see her eyes getting brighter throughout the conversation, and it ended with:

HER: Wow, you’re feisty today… ME: Yeah, so…?

HER: So, it’s really… attractive.

ME [laughing]: Boy, you’re easy today…

That’s a confession straight from the source: feisty = attractive. And she went on to demonstrate her attraction after lunch in an unusually aggressive manner. I think everything you’re saying is capital-T Truth, brother.

You know, people assume that Kissinger was talking about political power being the ultimate aphrodisiac, but I think there are many nuances to the word “power”, and you don’t have to be a senator or CEO to exploit it.

Interesting aside: I was discussing this with an insightful female friend, and she agreed with everything you say, and added that women don’t want to be our mothers… and if we treat them like we treat our mothers (i.e., act like a wuss), what does that say?

C.K.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Amen, brother. Amen.

Feisty, Sassy, Cheeky, Ballsy… = ATTRACTION.

***QUESTION***

hey dave-lets get to the chase. 2 things (first the success story).. i met this chik who was getting off work..yelled out “HEY!” and she came over to me.. i started talking about anything and everything to get/keep her attention..busting on her and all ..she gave me her # after 20 minutes.. BUt i didn’t call. then i ran into her again in the neighborhood but this time i did the same thing “whats your # again?” and then finally i wrote it down and scored on the second meeting after coffee.. the stuff works bro

now for the wuss part..i meet this chik last summer who was in town for her job assignment that lasted for 1 month. Shes a real player. We met again after the party (she called me and said hey I’m coming over) and within 30 minutes she was in my bed in her bra/panties BUT i didn’t do anything cause she was complaining about how guys are such dogs. so i didn’t do anything for the next 5 meetings. She said “I’m glad you never did anything cause we still wouldn’t be talking if u did”.

Anyway, last time we meet she invites me AND 4 other guys for dinner. she sits on their laps (just like she did with me) to  ake me jealous. we have kept in touch for 5 months and next month she’ll be back for a 2 week visit. i have heard shes talking to 5 other guys in town besides me. whenever i confront her on the phone about these guys she says “nooo! I’m not! and I’ve never slept with any of them so ignore the rumors! who do you believe them or me??!” she called me 1 month ago and let my phone ring once, and then when i called her back it was a guys voice (she moved in with her “friend” from high school)

my question is: i told her how i felt about her and she already said she just wants to be friends because she travels around a lot. she’ll be staying with 1 or 2 of these guys shes talking to when she comes back and will try to make me sooo jealous i know it. she called me last week and actually asked me for one of these guys numbers. I got angry and hung up on her (something i would never have done before) and then she called me back and actually seems a lot more interested.

Then i called her yesterday from work and told her that a stripper approached me at a bar and asked me out and then this girl said “ohh well why don’t you go out with her then?” but then said “OH by the way Im coming back on APRIL 21st”.. i want to beat her at her own damn game! but i already gave her so much power. i wish i could just take it all back and make her feel the same way.

HOW DO I HANDLE THIS GIRL:??? SHES DRIVING ME NUTS!!!

CJ

Houston,TX

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Wow, this is actually a very powerful story.

First, she intimidated you by telling you that “guys are dogs”… which caused you to not try to take things to a physical level.

When you did that, YOU FAILED THE FIRST TEST.

She intimidated you with her words!

Then, the more you pursued her without progressing, the more she tested you.

Until she finally started INSULTING you… right in front of a bunch of other guys!

By the way, when you mentioned that after you hung up on her she seemed a lot more interested…it’s probably true.

Look, man…. BAIL! Drop it. Hit the road.

You screwed up in the beginning by handing over control of the relationship to her, and it’s not worth the trouble or hassle to try to take it back.

She’s probably the type of girl that LOVES to play guys and make them chase her… and who enjoys seeing how much a guy will do to get her… only to leave after he does all he can.

Move on.

But remember the lesson. Steer clear of women like this in the future.

Note: If you’ve read this story, and you can IDENTIFY with this guy who wrote it… and you know what it feels like to want a woman, but becompletely OUT OF CONTROL of the situation… then I recommend that you work on your INNER GAME as much as possible.

Self Image and Self Esteem are keys in this area, as they help you pass these “tests” that women throw at you… and they help you raise your standards, and avoid unhealthy women. If what I’m saying is making sense to you, then you should go RIGHT NOW and check out my DEEP INNER GAME DVD/CD program. This program will help you out in this area more than any other program ANYWHERE:

Deep Inner Game

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave

For the past 6 weeks I’ve been hearing…

“You scare me” (said jokingly) “I never know if you’re being serious” “You know what I love about you? You make me laugh…”

… and its all down to you.

Dave, you are “da man”, so I just wanted to say a huge thank you and tell you what happened - all thanks to your newsletters and amazing book

I got in touch with D via a personals web site, we started emailing, and I started the C&F. The first date was amazing. We went out to lunch - I never laid off the C&F and she was lapping it up. We went back to her place and started getting “cosy” (with the comments “I don’t normally do this on a first date”). I had to leave for another engagement but she desperately wanted me to stay!! So I went back on the Sunday and we’ve been together ever since.

Dave, you have saved another lost soul. Once again, a huge thank you.

R England

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Hey, you’re welcome.

Cash donations are welcome, along with large gifts and other favors (no, I don’t want a kiss).

Just make sure you keep doing what worked to begin with, and don’t turn into a WUSSY!

**QUESTION***

David,

First, I LOVE your Advanced Dating Techniques CD program. Everyone; do yourself a favor, BUY David’s stuff! It’s EXCELLENT!!! Well worth the INVESTMENT in YOURSELF!!!

This past Thursday, I was on a second date with this attractive female. Been using the c&f on both dates and she eating eating it up. Anyway,we end up back at her place. First, we get there and I sit back on the couch. She asks if I want a drink, so I tell her NO. Suggesting that she is just trying to get me drunk. We watch TV for a little bit; then when I was thirsty, I got up and asked her if she wanted a drink.She said no, so when I went to her fridge and I asked her what do you want me to bring you back, because I’m not drinking alone. After we both finish our first drink, I lean over and pecked her on the lips. She tried to kiss me back and I told her to settle down and go get us another drink, which she did.

….Fast forward, after a night of everything, but sex (I didn’t have a condom), as I was kissing her good night (she wanted me to stay, but I was leaving for a trip Friday morning, so I told her No.)

she said, “I’m going to regret not sleeping with you in the morning.”

I smile and kiss her.

She said, “Maybe next time.”

I said, “Maybe.”

Then she said, “or the time after that.” That light bulb my David D. light bulb went on, this preparedst.

Being prepaid I said, “What makes you think I’ll want to have sex with you next time? Or the time after that?”

She said, “You’re a guy and that’s what all guys want.”

I said, “Maybe I’ll only kiss you next time.”

She said, “I hope we’d AT LEAST do that.”

Driving the nail home that I was in control and she wasn’t going to use sex as a weapon, I said, “Fine, then hand holding it is.”

She said, “Hand holding?”

hand-holding, “Yes, you’ve been promoted to hand holding.”

She said, “How is that a promotion?”

I kissed her and said, “I’ll tell you next time.” and left. Needless to say, next time I’ll score, if I want to. LOL!!! Of course I will, because that’s what all guys want. hehehehe!!! This stuff is GREAT!

I haven’t finished cd 10 or 11 yet, but I do have a question about paying? When is it appropriate to let her pay? How often? How do I let her pay without being perceived as a wussy?

Thanks again. You have changed my life for the better. I now get it. Plus, it’s fun to watch the guys who Chicago-land This stuff is VERY POWERFUL, use it with caution.

J Chicagoland

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Very nice.

Mixed messages, teasing, stepping back, making her feel anticipation and want it badly… GREAT.

This is a great example of how to handle a situation like this one.

As far as letting women pay…

The whole topic of “paying” is kind of a pain.

It has gotten into many women’s heads that if a guy pays it means that he’s a “gentleman” and if he doesn’t it means that “he’s not”.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Howdy, Dave — I wrote to you about a year ago with what I thought was a great “Success Story” involving a biker chick. She was just so hot, and she came on to me right in front of her biker boyfriend, after I busted on her about how I thought only good-looking women got to ride on Harleys. Well, she turned out to be one sick puppy.

Chock full of really strange mental and personality things. Well, I kept being C&F with other women while I was dating this chick — and I’m sure glad I said, “No” when she wanted to move in with me! Anyhow, to make a long story a bit shorter, I’m now involved with a 50 year-old 10. Perhaps a 10.5!! I’m 55, average looking, divorced x2, definitely not wealthy, etc, etc.

I treated this woman as if she was my “bratty little sister” and after a couple months of banter, she asked me for a date! I had not even bought her a cuppa! Anyhow, we have been dating since last summer, and back around Christmastime, I started getting wussyfied with her. I saw immediately that it was not the right thing to do. She began to withdraw, so I did not call her or see her for a week. It was tough to pull back and get back to doing the right things. (No, I didn’t have dreams of you bitch-slapping me!

I got that vicariously in your emails!!) My point is this — if it works, keep doing it!! Don’t stop. And, as soon as you realize you’ve reverted, AS SOON AS, get back to right behavior. This woman loves me even more now because I was able to backpedal quickly. Pay attention to yourself and what you are doing and saying, guys! Don’t ever go back to wussiness. Wussy only works with your mom, and you don’t want to date her, do you? Pay attention to yourself and what you are doing and saying! Be in control of your life.

Thanks, Mr. Dave. G from Colorado

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Exactly… do what works, and if you start slipping, pull back and then get back with the program.

Good job, and keep it up.

Thanks for the email.

***QUESTION***

Here’s a Q for you…I haven’t ordered you CD’s yet, I’ve been reading your emails and taking in the info slowly, but I’ll definitely do so soon. On the issue of being generous….It has always in my nature to be generous of myself unconditionally with most people I like, but I don’t give away my life just for attention or to “buy” people’s friendship, and certainly for a woman’s attention, I have always known that just doesn’t work.

I come from a family in which it is natural for us to be generous as a matter of good form, but never beyond the means available. It’s a cultural trait I guess. Being tight and always expecting a reward for everything is neurotic anyways. Problem is between women and I is that I have no problem with doing a small favor for a woman just out of what I feel is just decency. But I don’t expect to immediately jump in the sack with her.

It’s a paradox for me. Like going to a club and buying some woman a drink, but not expecting anything in return except having a good time and just getting along. Maybe it’s a good way to sort out the user/flaky types from the cool and normal types, doing a small favor and seeing how they react. I’ve had good results from controlling how much I will give, and sometimes throwing in some humor like this “O.K. one drink ( sly grin he re) but if you start stumbling around I’m not paying your cab fare home!”, This always gets a laugh and loosens up the woman, and keeps me in control(I think) without seeming that I’m a sucker or trying to buy her attention.

What is your view on this kind of thing? Oh, another thing I’ll do is _not_ get clingy if I do something like that..in fact I’ve found that if I just walk away and find something to do for a few minutes( talk to a friend or even go to the bathroom or whatever that) right after doing a small favor, and allowing some “breathing space”, that the next time around they get at ease and usually a good conversation usual starts leading to and exchange of digits. Do you think I’m on the right track? or is it too “friendly”(read doomed wuss)?

Thanks C.M.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is a great question.

I think that most of us REALLY want to be “good” to women… we want to do nice things, treat women well, and “take care” of them.

I can understand your generosity mindset, and I actually admire you for having an “abundance” mentality.

But I’m going to present you with another way of looking at things… one that might really help you.

What if you thought of “generosity” a little differently?

What if you were to realize that being “generous” with a woman sometimes means to ACT like you’re being NOT generous at all?

What if you were to see that if you were too “generous” at first, that a woman would SUSPECT that you were only being generous to MANIPULATE her?

It’s not you.

It’s that women are so used to men trying to do things for them in order to get attention and sex in return that they:

1. See this kind of generosity as “average” and expected behavior… and immediately slot you into the “regular, nice guy” category when you do it.
2. Often see generosity as a form of manipulation, whereby a man uses gifts and dinners to set up a situation where the women feels that she needs to “put out” in return.

Lean back.

Be generous LATER, when it will be perceived to be more authentic and special.

It sounds to me like you’re a genuinely good guy.

The challenge is getting a woman’s attention for long enough that you can actually SHOW her this side of you, and have it not come across as “ass kissing” behavior.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Hey Dave,

First, let me say how powerful your techniques are. A lot of the methods you teach have been part of my success in the past; I just didn’t realize it until I started using your various Double Your Dating materials!

I’m from Manhattan, New York; and I work in probably one of the best places in the world to find unbelievably beautiful women; the “fashion district.” In this part of NYC, their are hordes of models going from fittings to fittings, to photo shoots etc. Here is a real-world example of your excellent teachings in action!

#1, when I go out to lunch; I don’t go to a fast food joint, I go to a salad bar (these are very popular in this part of town). The theory being that, I desire a girl with a great figure, and fast food is not the path to one, so I hit the salad spots! Recently, I see this very well known model (who happens to have a major modeling contract with a cosmetics company) at my favorite lunch spot, waiting on line to pay for her salad.

She is of course an absolute 10, wearing a super sexy outfit complete with some killer stiletto style heels; so I see my ‘in.’ I walk up behind her and say “what is up with those shoes,” in *almost* a disapproving way. She gives a half glance towards me and says in a slightly confused, self conches way “what, their Jimmie Choo’s.” Still looking down, I respond “their sharp.” She responds “thanks.”

At this point, I’m still just not much more than another guy looking to get her attention, in her eyes. So I respond “that wasn’t a complement, I’m saying that they’re SHARP; like they could be used as a weapon!” She responds with a big smile. At this point, the woman at the register says “next! [we both walk to the register] Are you together” I quickly respond “no-way did you see those weapons she calls shoes?” this don’t even make complete sense, but that’s the point!

I make sure I pay first (cutting ahead of her), then as she starts to pay for her order, I say “I’ll tell you what, if you promise to keep your shoes on the floor, I’ll LET you have lunch with me today.” After that c&f comment she had this really confused look on her face like, who the hell is this guy to talk to me like this? Notice DYD-ers, I didn’t even act like I knew who she was. As a matter of fact, to this day I never play into her fame/success AT ALL!

To keep a long story from getting any longer, I got her email that day at lunch, and now we have been dating for three months! I cannot thank you enough Dave, for showing me the errors of my ways, and helping me date so many beautiful girls.

G from Manhattan

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ah, models.

The object of desire for so many men.

And what do most guys do when they run into a woman who is of “model quality”?

They get nervous, act stupid, and say things that sound exactly like the other 47 guys that she has talked to that day…

Beautiful women are some of the VERY BEST people to bust on.

Think of it this way:

Her beauty (and in your case, fame) is her weapon.

It’s where her power comes from.

When you approach a woman like this and immediately acknowledge her beauty, you also say, “I see that you are powerful, and I’m one of those who your power affects”.

On the other hand, when you totally disregard her “outward beauty” and instead start making fun of her, teasing, and enjoying yourself, you instead say, “I am the powerful one, and your beauty magic doesn’t work on me”.

This has an INSTANT effect.

It separates you from 999 out of 1,000 other men that she meets.

And if you’re CHARMING and FUNNY as well, it just says all the right things.

Great job, and congratulations on finding a beautiful woman who you enjoy enough to date on an ongoing basis.

…and if you’re reading this Mailbag right now, and thinking to yourself, “Man, I need to start learning this stuff and get this part of my life handled…”

…then YOU’RE RIGHT.

There’s no better time than the present.

Here’s an interesting thought…

At one of my live seminars, I met a guy who owns my Advanced Dating Techniques program.

Get this:

He told me that he has listened to the CD version of the program 13 times now. 13 times!

Why do you think he’s listened to it so many times?

Because he still learns NEW stuff EVERY time he listens to it.

So what am I trying to say here?

I’m trying to say that it’s JAM PACKED with incredible information.

My Advanced Series was actually recorded at a special 3 day seminar I did. It was then edited down to a tight presentation (over 12 full hours), and released on CD and DVD.

It’s me teaching all of my very best stuff.

I don’t hold anything back, and I have the time to explain all of my concepts in detail… with examples and step-by-step techniques for each of them.

This is the best program you’ll find on meeting more women and getting more dates, and I highly recommend that you check it out.

It’s here:

Advanced Series

…and it’s also important that you read my eBook “ Double Your Dating“. It’s the foundation for all of the things I teach in these
newsletters, and all the things I teach in my Advanced Dating Techniques program. You can download it here and be reading it in just a few minutes:

Click Here for Your Free Newsletter And Download eBook

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

Dear David,

I am a subscriber to your newsletter, and will soon download your e-book and/or your CD.

I like what you write and I already learned a lot, I believe. But lately you were dealing with a subject intriguing me more than others: why do women leave men. Which triggered my question.

Here it comes:

Last year I was dating a woman for several months, in fact it was beyond dating already, we were close to a committed relationship. And we had pleasure and fun together, great sex and everything. Then all of a sudden she decided that it was not “that”, she left and went back to herformer guy, a jerk who doesn’t treat her even remotely as well as I did. Now from your newsletter I conclude that this was precisely the problem.

At the beginning I had acted well (even without having your newsletters then), she was chasing me, not the other way round, and I instinctively did it right, played the “hard to get” and let her run hot. No wonder she was wild on me when we finally hit off. But then I must have changed my behavior and started acting like a WUSSY. (By the way, what does WUSSY really mean, i.e. the word itself, I am not a native English speaker, I just understand that it is undesirable with women).

And consequently she lost interest and attraction for me. But strangely enough ever since then she keeps in contact with me, emailing, phoning, writing that she is missing me, says she wants to keep me as a friend and so on.

Now the real questions:

1. How do you interpret her behavior? Is she still interested somehow or what?
2. Is there - according your experience - any realistic chance to get her back, i.e. to trigger again her interest and attraction?

I should add that I am not sure that I really want her back, in fact rather not, but it would certainly be nice to get her to that stage again, so I could then decide in control of the situation as in the beginning.

Thanx for any comments of yours

A.H. Zurich, Switzerland

>>>MY COMMENTS:

So, let’s start with the definition of the word WUSSY…

This word is a combination of the words “Wimp” and another word that starts with P, has a next letter of U, then two of the letter S and finally a letter Y.

In other words, a Wussy (or Wuss), is a guy who tends to behave in a wimpish, submissive, needy, way.

The opposite of a Wussy is Maximus during his first arena fight scene in the movie Gladiator.

The problem with being a Wussy is that women are NOT ATTRACTED TO WEAKNESS… and thus, they are NEVER attracted to WUSSIES.

Never.

Ever.

Ever.

A woman might MARRY a Wussy because he’s either the best she can get, has a lot of money, has courted her for so many years that she finally gives in, or whatever…

But, she’ll never feel ATTRACTION for him.

Women don’t CHOOSE who they feel ATTRACTION for, and they don’t choose the emotions that they feel either.

It just HAPPENS. Bam!

One problem that a lot of guys have to face is TURNING INTO a Wussy over time…

When you start off on the right foot, then gradually turn into a Wuss over time with a woman, that emotion called ATTRACTION starts to go away inside of her.

A woman will tell her friends “I don’t know what it is…but for some reason lately he’s just annoying to be around.” etc.

It BOTHERS and ANGERS women when a man that’s interested in them acts like a WUSSY. In many women it actually triggers these emotions just like dominant behavior triggers ATTRACTION.

Of course, the worse things get, and the more annoyed a woman becomes, the more like a total WUSSBAG most guys act.

It’s one of those “vicious cycles” that usually ends with the woman leaving and the guy sitting there wondering what he did wrong… and him thinking that maybe, if he had just been able to tell her just how much he loved her, that she would not have left him for that other abusive jerk.

By the way, if you want to learn how to DE-WUSSIFY yourself for good, and become a man that is universally attractive to women, then you must go and read this before you read any further:

On Being a Man

OK, so let’s talk about your specific questions:

1. “How do you interpret her behavior? Is she still interested somehow or what?”

I interpret her behavior as NATURAL and VERY, VERY PREDICTABLE.

If you do it again in the future, the same thing will probably happen.

Is she still interested?

Yes, she is.

But not in anything more than being your FRIEND.

You have, with your actions and communication, KILLED the ATTRACTION that she felt for you.

This is something you’re going to have to deal with and take responsibility for.

You turned into a Wuss, and now you’re paying the price.

You have to come to terms with your Inner Wuss before improvement can begin.

2. “Is there - according your experience - any realistic chance to get her back, i.e. to trigger again her interest and attraction?”

Well, this is a sticky question.

There is a CHANCE, yes.

But here’s the problem. Probably 90% of the time when I tell a guy exactly what to do in order to get a girl back, he screws it up… doesn’t do it exactly the way I say, etc.

And, of course, he makes things worse in the process.

THE PROBLEM…

Focusing on getting her back will not only lessen the chances, but it will keep you from moving on in your life.

The best thing for you to do is MOVE ON in your life.

Ironically, the way to give yourself the best chances of getting her back is to NOT TRY…instead, go date other women, and be scarce in her life.

In other words, you’re never going to make her feel any ATTRACTION for you again by staying in touch, being her friend, and being “nice”… and by trying to “win her over” again.

It would be nice if things worked that way, but they don’t.

Now, why do guys chase women, and keep doing the WRONG things… even after a woman has left?

In our dealings with women, we guys tend to think things like “That’s not fair” and “I did all the right things” and to feel self-righteous because we’re the good guy… but miss the point and not get the RESULTS we want.

Remember though…

Attraction isn’t FAIR, it isn’t “right”, it doesn’t care how “nice” you are. Attraction can be cruel and painful sometimes.

You know, the irony of your situation is that this girl was probably just as bummed-out as you were about this whole thing happening.

Women HATE it when guys turn into Wussies.

I know, I know… she did things that made you turn into more and more of a Wuss. It’s her fault too… right?

Wrong.

Women do this stuff to TEST you.

They’re not actually TRYING to turn you into a Wuss. But if you DO turn into a Wuss, she realizes that she can’t trust you to be a man and she has to go.

Now, she’s not doing this to hurt you, she’s only doing it because she wasn’t getting the feelings that she wanted with you… and now she’s getting them with Jerk-Boy.

THE SOLUTION…

As I mentioned, your best bet in this situation is to MOVE ON. Get on with it.

Most importantly, start dating OTHER WOMEN IMMEDIATELY.

Not in a few days, and not next week. NOW.

And, stop calling your ex. Stop responding to her quickly. Stop being her WUSS-FRIEND.

It’s obvious that the LAST thing you want is to wind up “just being friends” with her… so STOP DOING IT.

Next time she calls, tell her you have a date over at the house, or you’re leaving to meet a woman. Of course, make sure IT’S TRUE, like I said.

Stop being so AVAILABLE.

Get busy enjoying your life.

Get busy dating other women.

If you find yourself thinking about her and wanting to hear her voice, BITCH-SLAP yourself. If you’re feeling weak, have a friend do it.

And when you do wind up talking to her, say the following:

“Hey, calling for more therapy? No-can-do… I have to run to the gym to get in shape for my hot date on Friday…”

You feel me, dog?

And remember…

In this world, “I was a nice guy and did nice things for her” doesn’t cut it. Attraction has a totally different set of rules… and exceptions. And if you want to get and keep an attractive woman, then you’d better learn them.

It’s a skill, and you’re not going to get it by being “nice” and doing everything your mom taught you…

If a woman feels ATTRACTION for a man, she’ll do almost anything to stay with him. If she DOESN’T feel it, then the chances are slim that she’ll stay around.

These rules are even MORE TRUE when you’re dealing with an ATTRACTIVE woman who gets a lot of attention from guys.

The irony of this situation is that I think it’s a lot easier to make a woman feel ATTRACTION than it is to be a Wuss who chases after her, buys her things, and annoys the hell out of her.

I spent a lot of years of my life being a Wuss.

I made all the classic mistakes.

I should probably be awarded an honorary degree in the subject… really.

But, over the last several years I’ve not only learned how to cure myself and evict my Inner Wuss… I’ve also learned how to make women feel ATTRACTION with my body language and communication alone.

I only wish someone would have shown me this stuff fifteen years ago…

If you’re reading this right now and it’s time that you evicted your inner Wussy, and learned how to make women feel ATTRACTION for you without chasing them, buying them things, and giving all of your power away, then listen up…

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