Dave,

In one of the newsletters I received a couple weeks ago you gave the advice to someone to learn ‘what topics fascinate women.’ I found this newsletter specifically interesting because I’ve found myself in this same situation were when im on a date things get quiet and I cant find anything to say. I know you have already recommended a good book on comedy, “comedy writing secrets,” but what is a good book explaining how to tell stories? And, what are some topics that fascinate women? Any help would be greatly appreciated.

M.G. Gainesville, FL.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is a great question.

There are really two very different (and important) aspects to the “conversations with women” topic:

1. The HOW.

2. The WHAT.

“THE HOW…”

Most guys want to know “what to talk about” with women.

It only makes sense that you should talk about things that women are interested in… right?

Well… partially.

It is actually FAR MORE IMPORTANT to talk about whatever topic you’re talking about in the RIGHT WAY.

In other words, if you don’t understand HOW to carry on a conversation that creates ATTRACTION, then it really won’t matter WHAT you talk about… because the woman you’re talking to won’t FEEL anything towards you.

The HOW of conversation includes (but, is not limited to):

- Your body language

- Eye contact

- The Cocky & Funny style of communicating

- Flirting

- Sending mixed messages

- Directing the conversation

- Dealing with common questions and topics

…and many other things.

My point is that if you’re running into a lot of “uncomfortable silences”, nervousness, and other usual challenges, then you probably need to get the HOW handled before the WHAT.

“THE WHAT…”

With that said, there are several topics that are GREAT to discuss with women.

But instead of just giving them to you, I want you to do yourself a favor and THINK for a minute.

What topics do women PAY to hear about?

Hint: Cosmo magazine, romance novels, soap operas, nighttime dramas, the fashion channel…etc.

If you think about it, the answer to this question is rather obvious.

For whatever reason, WOMEN tend to LOVE:

- Drama

- Conflict

- Romance

- Famous people and their lives

So… it’s really quite easy to enjoy a conversation with a woman about these topics.

Here are a few ideas:

1. Play amateur psychologist to the stars.

Talk about how someone famous is doing something really stupid, then psycho-analyze them.

Actors, rock stars and famous sports figures just LOVE to do crazy things… cheat on their spouses… and then say “I didn’t do it”.

These situations are BEGGING to be picked apart with a fine-toothed, critical, funny, sarcastic mind.

2. Find an interesting looking group of people and guess what’s going on.

Look around you, and find a couple sitting at a table that looks like they’re on their first date.

Then, start making fun of how the guy is acting, how he’s dressed, his posture, or whatever. Talk about how the woman is thinking that he’s a dork and how he’s not getting any, no matter how many compliments he gives her.

Analyzing what’s going on with a close group of others is big fun, and women love it.

3. Make fun of someone famous.

Talk about how a super model is too skinny, or how Ben Affleck can only date women named Jennifer.

All you have to do is read a few gossip magazines to get all kinds of great stuff to make fun of.

It’s fun, it’s funny, and it’s a great way to talk like you’re all that.

4. Talk about other people’s love lives.

Talk about the problems that others are going through when it comes to love and romance, then volunteer completely ridiculous theories about what’s going on.

Mention a friend you had who broke up with his girlfriend because she gained weight, then after you’ve told the story, make up a random theory about how women who gain weight are actually lesbians.

But, make sure it’s funny, whatever you invent.

…I think you “feel me”.

The point here is that women are NATURALLY fascinated and drawn to certain topics… so USE THEM.

The REAL benefit of talking to women about topics that really interest them is that you can USE ALL THE OTHER IDEAS THAT YOU’RE LEARNING while you’re talking!

You can AMPLIFY THE ATTRACTION as the conversation goes on… as long as you know what else to do as you talk.

Oh, by the way…

Topics to avoid: Rape, kidnapping, stalking, death, chess, computers, comic books, Star Wars and your secret love: wrestling.

NEVER talk about topics that might really freak a woman out, or topics that make you look like the biggest loser alive, especially in the beginning.

You’ll create BAD VIBES that will make any attraction that you’ve created INSTANTLY disappear.

Others to really avoid include talking negatively about yourself, talking about how desperate you are or how long it’s been since you’ve been on a date, asking if she likes you or if you’re her “type”… and any other WUSS-BAG topic that makes you look insecure and needy.

Remember, the key to success with women is creating a powerful emotional ATTRACTION between you and her.

If you don’t know how to do this, then NOTHING you do is going to help you very much.

If you DO know how and why women feel ATTRACTION for men, then almost ANYTHING you do or talk about can amplify it.

And if you’d like to get the basics of how ATTRACTION works, plus a good set of tools to use for meeting and dating women, then go download my eBook Double Your Dating. You can download it and be reading it in just a few minutes from right now. Download it here:

Double Your Dating

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

I’m reading through some of the bazillion emails I get every week, and I come across one of the best emails that I’ve read in a LONG time.

Are you ready for the interesting part?

It’s from a MARRIED GUY.

Yep, you read that right. He’s married.

He reads the newsletters and uses the things he learns to improve his marriage. Go figure.

This guy was able to explain in a few paragraphs a concept and technique that I personally use, but have been unable to actually explain and verbalize well.

I wish I would have written what you’re about to read, but I didn’t (But I’m still a cool guy because I wrote what came before and after it).

Check this out…

***Conversation Technique***

Dave,

I’m still having great success with a rekindled marriage using you’re Tips on my wife. Thanks a million. Listen, I keep reading over and over in the MailBags guys wanting to know how to start, then keep a conversation going with women. I work for a major oil company and have been through many of there training courses on dealing with people. One particularly interesting course was on “Information Seeking”.

For this we first practiced picking up on “Key words or phrases” the subject said. For instance, I’ll try and give an example using c&f even though you wouldn’t use this professionally on the job. Lets say you see this great looking chick on the street and you tell her, “That’s an unusual looking dress you’re wearing. Was that made out of a shower curtain?”

She says, “Your mean! No, I bought this from the Old Navy store.”

Key Words: Old Navy.

“Oh, so you’re in the Navy, huh?” “No silly. You know, the big store over at the Mall.”

Key word: Mall.

“Oh, so you like going to the Mall and buying strange looking dresses do you? Do your girlfriends buy them also?” “My girlfriends are neat dressers and my dress is very popular I’ll have you know!”

Key phrases: “girlfriends are neat dressers” and “dress is popular”.

“Well, if your girlfriends are neat dressers in a popular dress like you’re wearing then I’m going into the shower curtain clothing business…” I know, this is a lame example but the lessons are this.

1) You start a conversation with however you want then pick out key words or phrases from what the person says.

2) You repeat them in what you say then listen for new key words in there next response.

3) You add a little something new into the conversation REPEATING there words you’re using as Key words or phrases. This tells them you’re listening, even though you’re turning things around to be c/f in this situation.

Once we learned to keep someone talking for 5 minutes, then 15 minutes the company actually hired total strangers from a job soliciting company to come and be our subjects. While being videotaped we had to get the person talking and keep them talking for 30 minutes. One important note: If a person brings up something personal or whatever, they wouldn’t have mentioned it if they didn’t want to talk about it.

These are great to Key in on. My subject mentioned she was going through a divorce and her ex-husband was a total jerk. I keyed in on this and it’s amazing what a total stranger will tell you once you build a little rapport. When watching the video you pick up on mistakes or you see something different you could have said. You also pick up on Key words and phases you missed. It just takes a little practice. This is just one example of how you can start a conversation and keep it going. Hopefully it can be of help to you’re readers.

JTM
Texas

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Awesome.

This is an EXCELLENT description of how to keep a conversation going, keep it interesting and unpredictable, and talk about ANYTHING and have it be fun.

Read it again.

Now let me sprinkle a little magic dust on this, and tell you how I use this technique personally.

When I’m having a conversation with a woman, I’m not just listening for ANY key word… I’m listening for a particular KIND of key word (or words).

I’m always on the alert for any words or phrases that can be twisted, turned around, misinterpreted, and misconstrued (is that a word?) in one of a few particular ways…

…namely in a way that says she stupid, ditzy, sexually crazed, or acting suspicious.

For instance, in your example above you suggested the following:

“That’s an unusual looking dress you’re wearing. Was that made out of a shower curtain?”

She says, ” Your mean! No, I bought this from the Old Navy store.”

Key Words: Old Navy.

“Oh, so you’re in the Navy, huh?” “No silly. You know, the big store over at the Mall.”

Key word: Mall.

“Oh, so you like going to the Mall and buying strange looking dresses do you? Do your girlfriends buy them also?” “My girlfriends are neat dressers and my dress is very popular I’ll have you know!”

Key phrases: “girlfriends are neat dressers” and “dress is popular”.

“Well, if your girlfriends are neat dressers in a popular dress like you’re wearing then I’m going into the shower curtain clothing business…”

Good. Nice one.

Now, let’s dial it up a little bit…

She says “No, I bought this from the Old Navy store…”

Instead of just keying into “Navy” and saying “Oh, so you’re in the navy, huh?”, why not take it to the next step and actually MAKE FUN of her.

“Oh, so is this what guys used to wear in the Navy a long time ago… in the OLD Navy?”

Now you’re BUSTING on her as well, AND it’s funny.

She says “No silly. you know, the big store over at the Mall.”

You might try “What kind of MALL are YOU shopping at? And do your girlfriends buy dresses like that one too?”

Again, you’re hinting that she has funky taste and she shops in weird places.

She says “My girlfriends are neat dressers and my dress is very popular I’ll have you know!”

You could go with “Oh, you have girlfriends? You have more than one? Do they all know that you think of them as a girlfriend? Or is one of them the special one? By the way, if you have cute girlfriends, then I think you and I are going to get along VERY well.”

…are you with me here?

What I’m doing is NOT ONLY looking for key words to latch onto, but I’m ALSO looking for ways to spin them to make fun, tease, and subtly suggest various kinds of “racy” topics.

When done in a funny way, it’s magic.

Once upon a time, a guy I know very well went into a nightclub.

He was talking to a girl at that club for awhile, when she said “Well, I’m getting tired. I think it’s time for me to go home.”

The guy answered “Go HOME?! I just met you. I’m not going HOME with you!”

She said “No, I mean I’M going home. I’m tired.”

He shot back “Maybe you don’t hear me. I’m not going home with you, so don’t even ask anymore.”

She said “No, that’s not what I’m saying…”

He replied “And besides, I’m sure my place is nicer than yours… so if anything, you’re coming home with ME.”

This went on and on for about an hour or so.

And you guessed it, she went home with him.

I saw it happen with my own two eyes.

Another off-the-wall (but pretty funny) example of this, is a story that a good friend of mine told me about one of his friends.

His friend was talking to a girl at a club, and she was talking about what kinds of things she enjoyed doing with her spare time.

She said “…I like to go clubbing…”

He came back with “Oh, like baby seals?”

lol… Now, that might not get a girl to come home with you, but it’s damn funny. Love it.

This technique is GREAT for keeping a conversation fresh, fun, unpredictable, and FUNNY (if you know how to do it just right).

Use it.

Right now you’re probably thinking to yourself:

“Wow, that’s really great. I sure wish there was a resource available that could show me hundreds of great ideas like that… so I could know exactly what to do from when I first meet a woman to the first date… all the way up until we get physical and beyond…”

Guess what?

It’s right here:

Double Your Dating

You can download it and be reading it in literally MINUTES from right now. Go get it:

I’ll talk to you again soon!

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

Davie DeAngelo,

I have had your book and newsletters for almost 2 years. Yesterday I sent away for your advanced series. Your material is quality and obviously the way to go (I’m ridiculously cheap and I wouldnt have spent the extra money on the advanced series if i knew it wouldnt work)

My most recent story goes like this: I was working and met some female (9.0 on my scale) exactly the type of face i like. She had a hard-to-get personality. I teased her and had some good conversation for a few minutes. She had to go but returned a while later asking ‘what time it was’ or some stupid question like that that you can ask anyone and still look casual. (typical of girls i have busted on to come back and ask some stupid question) I continued to bust on her and maintain my uninterested/laid back mood.

I told her to write her number down, she did and she told me ’she liked me’ or some pick up like that, i said “yeah i like me too”

She wanted to do something later, I said ‘like what’ (just seeing where she was coming from). She smiled and didnt really answer, to which i followed up with “whatever, you couldnt handle this”

I had a friend come by who i work with and she started talking to him ‘acting’ interested (i assume to see how i would handle it). So ignored them and went on with my stuff, instead of cock blocking i bragged a little about him.

she said she had to leave and was standing right in front of me for a couple seconds so i just moved in for a kiss and she did also (btw that was after less than a total of 15 minutes of talking). She left and I went back to my work, but not before a little 3-second Conan O’Brien dance behind my desk. earlier she told me to call her that night so i called her the next night.

That night she wanted to get busy and I would keep backing up when she went in to kiss me and didnt act too thrilled about the whole occasion. She took her shirt off right after she got in my house and i told her to put it back on and that she could take it off later. that night she said “Your the only guy who I can’t figure out” and “I’m so lucky to be here with you” and even “How come you picked me, you deserve so much better” This beautiful, hard-to-get girl’s personality changed right in front of me. And i used the beautiful “just say please” line once again.

I love you Dave (but not like that you sicko!)

-D from CA

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Great story.

You’ve mentioned a couple of my favorite types of “comebacks” to things women say.

In one situation, she said, “I like you” and you replied, “I like me too”.

In another, she mentioned that she wanted to do something later with you, and you replied “Like what?”… and then said “Whatever, you couldn’t handle this”.

You TOTALLY get the equation:

COCKY + FUNNY

In your first comeback, you’ve taken something “nice” that she was saying about you, and turned it into a perfect opportunity to dial up the tension in a funny way.

“I like you”… “Yeah, I like me too”. Classic.

In your second comment, you really add one of the “magic ingredients” of ATTRACTION called being a CHALLENGE.

Most women have never had a guy say something like, “You couldn’t handle this” to them.

It’s so surprising to a woman when she hears this kind of thing… and it’s INCREDIBLE when it’s done in a FUNNY way.

Unless you understand the dynamics of how women become attracted to men, this stuff doesn’t make any sense at all.

Remember when you were a kid and you had those little cars that you could wind up by pulling them backwards on the floor… then when you let go they would spin out and fly forward?

You could feel the tension building as you pulled the car backwards… winding it up. And when you let go, it would scream out of your hand. I always thought those were pretty cool.

Well, there was another great lesson in those cool little cars: You need to dial up the tension before you can release the energy inside.

Your story and comments do a GREAT job of this.

***SUCCESS STORY***

David, I, like you, am a slow learner with women and I own nearly every product that you sell (which i am incredibly grateful for). And proof of my learning about women came just the other night. I had been achieving mild success with women but nothing to sneeze at.

Anyhow, I was in a strip club with some friends (fyi…i HATE strip clubs, seriously) just chatting it with some people i hadn’t seen for a long time sittin in sniffler’s row with my back cocked to the side, halfway ignoring the “dancers”. So, I held up $3 for a beer just as the dancer was coming my way and right before she got
in my face i notified the bartender for a Bud Light, then turned away. This, obviously, pissed her off.

I continued to sit relaxed, just chillin, ya know. Ten minutes later she comes out in somewhat normal attire and sits right next to me and starts in with how I am an a**hole and she hated me. I just smile demurely and say, “Well i’m glad you could determine that in the first 5 minutes rather than waste your time” and did NOT look away until she did. Then, not 5 minutes of conversation later, she confessed to me that she hated me yet was “so attracted to me” she couldn’t explain it.

At this time i am like “wow, this sh** is like magic”. Next i am making out with her in front of the ENTIRE bar after she had bought me 2 beers and 2 shots. Meanwhile, this tool of a man that had tipped her in excess of $200 that night was groping her while we were playing volley-lime with our tongues. Holy sh** were all the dudes in the club impressed and needless to say she left with me to finish the deal. I went from nobody in a club of perverts spending big money to the stud that left with free alcohol and the hottest stripper there.

I always was a believer in you, David, and the other night just reaffirmed my beliefs. Talk to you again soon…… D the Cunnilingualist SoDak

>>>MY COMMENTS:

What can I say?

I’ve already thought of a few things…

1) Use protection. Lots of it.

2) Don’t marry her, no matter how good the sex happens to be.

3) Wipe that DAMN Sh**-Eating-Grin off of your face already. It’s bad enough that every guy hates you… lol.

So, when you’re finished playing with fire, do yourself a favor and test out your skills in a bookstore, art show, or other place where you might meet more “quality” women.

Oh, and shut up.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

Your material is great! I went to this library in town where this very beautiful woman works. There are about 6 women that work there (no men). This woman has had very wealthy men date her and policemen and a body builder etc. I’m 49 and bald and don’t make a lot of money but she has fallen for me!

Every time I’d go in there I’d get cocky and funny with all of them and this woman wants to date ME! So we’ve been dating for a couple weeks now and she’s really falling in love with me.

Her birthday was about 5 days after we first met and I didn’t buy her anything. She obviously finds this very attractive that I feel confident enough in myself that I would do that.

Last night she said she loved me for the first time. I held my ground and refused to be intimidated into saying I love her too. She was flabberghasted when she asked: “Don’t you love me?” I said I need to know her more.

This morning she went to town and got me a pop and pop corn and wouldn’t allow me to pay her back and she brought it to me.

I’ve never been able to do this before. I was always the very nice and shy guy.

Thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

T.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, it’s OK to be a nice guy. Just do it in a way that doesn’t make women use the WORD “nice” to describe you.

The fact is that when you’re being Cocky & Funny, you’re actually being VERY nice… and women know it.

They love the fact that you’re paying attention to them in a way that’s INTERESTING, entertaining, funny, and unpredictable.

Good for you. Sounds like you’ve met a great gal.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

I have emailed you before with a success story but this email is more of a reply to the guy who felt his age of 37 was an issue with girls in their 20’s.

My thought on this is age is only a barrier if you choose to make it one. Sure there are girls out there where they have a problem with an age difference. To me these girls are looking for someone to settle down with, bring to her parents for Sunday dinner and have the approval of her friends and not someone to date for sake of dating.

I met this Latin girl at my gym who on a scale of 1 - 10 is about a 9. After an aerobic boxing class we went out for a cup of tea. We talked and I did a little C&F and she said to me before I leave remind me to give you my phone #. I didn’t even get to ask for it but that’s OK.

The other day we were at a Wendy’s for lunch when she told me I was incredible. She went on to say I don’t crowd her I give her, her space. Keeping the C&F going I told her I agree I am incredible. I told her if it wasn’t for the fact I like girls so much I would give myself a hug and kiss.

Well, Dave, we have been dating a few months now and about the age thing she is 27 and I am 56. It was on our second date when she asked how old I was and without any hesitation I just said 56. Just being honest and straight with her. Now, granted I do not look nor act my age for she thought I was 36 or so, I am into Hip Hop & Techno music and started taking Salsa dance lessons, there are a number of Latin clubs here in Miami.

So age is only a number to me and a lot of the girls I have gone out with. When a girl I date tells her girl friend how old I am the girl friend thinks her friend is dating this old man until I meet her and she doesn’t see an age difference any more.

N. Miami Beach

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Great points.

I know many men who date women that are 10 or even 20 years or more younger.

I read an interesting statistic that men who get divorced wind up marrying women that are an average of 10 years younger the second time, and that one in five men marries a women 20 years younger the second time.

Thanks for the email.

***COMMENT***

Dear Dave,

Your stuff is right on target…It took me a week to buy your ebook which is well worth it!! I don’t even think a genie could have given me better luck with women than the things you teach in ~THAT~ book. Anyway onto my SUCCESS STORY…

I’m 5′9″ weigh 140 pounds normal teenage acne problems nothing too big. The thing that got me down is I have kind of a big nose which brought my self-esteem sky rocketing downwards and kept it there for the 18 years I have been alive. Your newsletters alone gave me the confidence I needed to approach a woman.

Well make a long juicy story short. HOT woman bumps into me at gym. I ask did you grab my ass and really crank up the ball busting and C&f routine …a week later I (had sex) for the first time before I even got my first kiss. LOL. And to all you idiots who ask dumb questions before you read the book…well…you’re idiots…Thanks Man!

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Hey, good job.

And I appreciate your plug for my book.

I also wish that more guys would invest in themselves and get my book before asking questions.

The questions would be so much better, and the answers would as well.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Hi Dave.

Im not gonna say that you’re a god or anything, but you are a good guy who seems to know his stuff. I’d be a 21 year old virgin right now if it wasn’t for you. I began reading your emails about 9 months ago, while trying to figure out why my last girl left me before we even got into bed together. Your book made the answer painfully obvious. I was just too nice to her. I did everything to please her, and in the process ended up tuckin my balls between my thighs.

After downloading your book, my success has come about gradually. I’ve just been gradually being more open with women, less worried about offending them, and saying even rude or controversial things to them just for laughs. Like I said it takes time to get use to doing this, but I really put it to use well with a girl I met this summer, and wow. I was amazed at how easy it was to get a reasonably attractive woman to sleep with you. Well that one didn’t work out, but I don’t care cause I’ve had more success with others since. Rock on Dave.

B from Michigan

>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is some good stuff.

It’s important to test these ideas out until you become comfortable with them… and for some guys it’s VERY unusual or uncomfortable to say “rude or controversial things just for laughs” when it comes to women they’re attracted to.

Most guys fear that if they say the wrong thing, a woman won’t “like” them.

The problem with this kind of reasoning is that women don’t like men who PUSSYFOOT around looking for approval.

So by winning, you lose.

And yes, women like sex too.

They tend to enjoy it more with men who act like MEN, and not men who act like WOMEN.

Thanks for your email, and Rock On yourself, dude.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

I have been receiving your emails and bought your book, and I think I’m starting to get it. I am practicing to learn a new skill now, so that I can remain “in character” as cocky and funny, while I work to assimilate the approach into my personality. A recent newsletter helped me overcome my fear of being direct with women. I always was afraid to make a move because I figured the attractive ones were already married, hooked up, or lesbians.

I thought I would be embarrassed and feel stupid if I made a move on someone who isn’t available. You said simply ask “Are you single?” I agree that it does say all the right things. So last week I tried it, and the woman was married. But I could see she was complimented, and I felt good about the exchange. The next time, a woman said she was dating. Again, it was a positive experience.

Then yesterday, a hot woman came into my office, and she seemed to be getting into me. So I asked her if she was single, and she bent over backwards to assure me that she was. Then I shocked myself when I took it a step further, blurting out “Well, but are you straight?” This knocked her for a loop — and as she insisted just how straight she really is, I noticed an immediate increase in her feminine behaviors. So I busted her again, “Well, I just couldn’t be sure.”

Thanks, Dave. I do think I’m starting to get it… T.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

NIYYYYYYYYYCE!

Yes, you are demonstrating that you’re starting to get it. By the way, once you get a woman on the defensive (in a fun way, like you did) it’s always fun to keep going… and accuse her of all kinds of crazy things.

After she said that she was straight, you could have said, “OK, that’s good. But can you cook?”.

Once you’re on a roll, stay with it. These first moments present an amazing opportunity to turn up the heat and really amplify the ATTRACTION.

***QUESTION***

Hi Dave,

Love your stuff and these e-mails. Really informative.

I’ve a couple of points about the last set.

1) NLP can work in some cases but usually as a back-up to your stuff. Women love it AT THE RIGHT TIME but use it too much and you sound wussy. DON’T give up the cocky-funny approach EVER in a relationship. Keep the woman guessing, unsure and bust other women while she’s around you. You don’t have to be trying to pick up women while she’s there, just teasing shop assistants, waitresses, her friends, etc. shows her you’re in control and attractive to other women; they won’t want rid of you then……. ever. They love it and it keeps them on their toes. It makes you unpredictable, confident, assertive (in a positive way) and not needy and wussy.

2) One 37 year old guy in a previous e-mail said he felt he couldn’t approach younger women. He didn’t want to be thought of as a creepy old guy. Well, I’m 48, split 3 years ago (I’ve 3 kids!), thought my world had ended and I’d no future. I could’ve retreated to a lonely cocoon-like existence but decided, “What the hell it’s my turn now!” This really pissed off my ex-wife who wanted to split! I began to study everything I could find on women, how they thought (or didn’t think), what made them tick (or didn’t), why - to us guys - they were so irrational, the “let’s just be friends” thing, etc.

The only thing I’ve found that REALLY works is your stuff (I’ve had the book for ages). I have had loads of success with younger women (20s and 30s). My current girl is 34, attractive and I feel like a million dollars when I walk into a club or bar with my piece of arm candy (other women never stop looking and you know they’re attracted to a guy who can pull younger women, they’re curious, it’s amazing). She says this is the best relationship she’s ever had. So, my advice to older men is ignore everyone, go have some fun, approach who the hell you like, just use the cocky and funny routine and you WILL succeed more than you’ll fail. Life’s too short so get out there and enjoy. I wouldn’t have believed it could be like this.

Thanks for everything and helping me get a life back.

J. Edinburgh, Scotland

>>>MY COMMENTS:

You’ve made some great points here…

Let me comment on one or two of them.

One thing you mentioned is demonstrating how you can control situations with women… so that the woman you’re with KNOWS IT.

It’s always interesting to me how COMPETITIVE women are.

And there’s nothing quite like a woman knowing that her man can meet other women whenever he wants.

In fact, I’ll bet that a large percentage of women who stay in bad situations with men are only there because they know that their man can go meet other women anytime he wants, and they just can’t deal with the jealousy that it triggers… so they stay.

I know this doesn’t make much logical sense, but hey, it’s reality.

Now, as you know, I really don’t like the idea of “manipulating” women by lying and playing with their emotions for your enjoyment.

But if you naturally like to have fun with other people, and your girl just happens to be there when you’re joking around with the girl behind the counter at the coffee shop, then you’ll probably get some big benefits from it.

You also mentioned that when you decided to start learning about how to be more successful with women it pissed off your ex.

That’s pretty typical.

I mean, let’s face it… just between us guys… you probably allowed yourself to become a pretty boring, predictable husband… lol. So now that you’re getting your game together she’s thinking to herself “That JACKASS! Why didn’t he act like this before?! Now other women get to enjoy the part of my man that I always wanted more of!”.

A lot of guys write me to ask how they can get their ex-girlfriend back. The reality is that the reason she probably left you is because you had NO GAME. You were about as sexually interesting to her as Homer Simpson. If you want to get her back, go learn how to make women feel ATTRACTION, and then date other women. And if it’s possible to fix your relationship, that combination usually does the trick pretty nicely.

Finally, I agree with you about approaching the women you find attractive.

Look, no one is going to live your life for you.

No one is going to go meet attractive women for you.

You need to take control of your own life, and meet the kinds of women you want to meet.

Thanks for the reminder.

…and if you’re reading this right now and you’re thinking “Yea, that’s what I need… to take control of my life and my success with women”, then guess what?

YOU’RE RIGHT.

You do.

And if you’d prefer to save yourself a few YEARS of trial and error (or more), and a lot of MONEY and TIME, then I suggest you check out my online eBook Double Your Dating.

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I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

Most men don’t know the FIRST THING about how to take things to a “physical” level with a woman.

Here’s why:

Let’s say you’ve been out on a date with a woman, and you’re now back at your place, having an enjoyable conversation.

You look over at her.

She looks back at you.

You want to kiss her.

She KNOWS that you want to kiss her.

You know that she is the one with all the power.

If you try to kiss her, and she pulls away, she might reject you forever.

If you DON’T try to kiss her, maybe it will happen later, or maybe she’ll even kiss you…

The risk of being rejected FOREVER is so powerful and creates such fear that you decide to just “walk away” from the situation and hope something happens later.

Or, let’s say that you’ve been out with a woman a few times, and you have just kissed her for the first time.

You know that she’s enjoying it.

She knows that you want her.

You’d REALLY like to do more, but you’re afraid that if you try, you’ll be seen as “moving too fast”, or even worse… a “pushy pervert”.

You hate the idea of being rejected after you’ve invested all that time and come so far…

So you decide to stop and hope that maybe things will “heat back up” later.

WE’VE ALL BEEN THERE

If you really stop and think about it, the reason why you run into problems in situations like these is that:

1) You don’t understand exactly what turns women on.

2) You are afraid of rejection.

3) You don’t know what SHE’S thinking, so you hesitate.

I honestly believe that most men CAUSE their own problems and resistance when it comes to “getting physical” with a woman.

Yes, you read that right… MEN are the ones who CAUSE the problems.

It’s not the woman!

It’s the fact that you don’t understand the situation, what’s REALLY going on, and how to proceed.

WHAT WOMEN WANT… BUT WILL NEVER TELL YOU

Here’s a little secret that most women will NEVER share with you…

SHE KNOWS WHAT’S ON YOUR MIND.

Women can tell what you’re thinking!

If you want to kiss her, but you’re nervous about it, SHE KNOWS.

If you’re kissing her and want to do more…

SHE KNOWS.

And here’s the KICKER:

If you’re afraid of her rejecting you, SHE KNOWS.

Really.

Women are approximately TEN TIMES as good at men when it comes to reading and interpreting subtle body language, and THEY KNOW WHAT WE’RE THINKING.

Let me correct myself… slightly.

They know what MOST men are thinking.

If you understand the dynamics of how and why women become sexually aroused, then EVERYTHING CHANGES.

Now, let’s talk a little bit about the topics of RESISTANCE and REJECTION.

Here’s an interesting thought:

In their book “Sexual Interactions”, Albert and Elizabeth Allgeier mention that in one study almost 40% of women reported refusing sexual intercourse when they actually WANTED it. They call this “The token no”.

So, what’s going on here?

Hold on… one more thing before I discuss this, I want to point out that this DOESN’T mean that a woman wants a man to force himself on her. NEVER force a woman to do anything!

Here’s what’s going on…

Women enjoy ANTICIPATION.

Anticipation leads to sexual arousal.

Write that down…

…on your forehead.

You need to remember that women like the idea of WANTING and EXPECTING what’s going to happen.

The reason why a lot of women say that they don’t want to sleep with men even when they do is because the man doesn’t GET IT.

Men act like they would enjoy it if a woman just took off her clothes and said, “Let’s do it.”

Women act like they want a man to chase them around all night… and then MAYBE do it. Maybe.

So if you want her to feel more turned on, and to get less “resistance”, then USE ANTICIPATION.

I have a technique that I teach that’s called “Two steps forward, one step back”.

This is a way to INCREASE a woman’s sexual arousal and AMPLIFY the ATTRACTION that’s already present in the situation.

Here’s how it works:

Let’s say that you’re talking to a woman at your place, and you start holding her hand.

After a few minutes, take your hand back and STOP.

Lean back.

Keep talking.

A few minutes later, reach over and take her hand again… and keep talking.

Then, lean over and kiss her (use “The Kiss Test” as described at my website and in my “Double Your Dating” ebook).

After you’ve kissed her, STOP.

Lean back again.

Keep talking.

A few minutes later, reach over and kiss her again.

This time, kiss her for a little longer.

Kiss her a little deeper.

Then stop.

Lean back.

Smile.

ARE YOU WITH ME?

When you use this technique, you will be absolutely STUNNED at the results.

First of all, it completely changes the situation.

Instead of a woman RESISTING you, she’ll be MUCH more likely to try to get you to DO MORE.

She’ll very likely be confused.

She’ll be thinking to herself, “What’s going on here? Most guys try to push themselves on me, or they don’t do anything at all. This guy seems like he’s so in control of himself. And I keep getting more turned on. Maybe I should tell him that we’re not going to sleep together tonight. But this is so great…”

And the best part of this technique is that IT’S WHAT WOMEN WANT YOU TO DO!

Of course, they’d never TELL you this. And even if a woman COULD explain it, she wouldn’t WANT to tell you. Women want men who ALREADY GET IT.

I want to mention a couple of more important things.

First, if you want to even GET to the point where it’s time to hold a woman’s hand, kiss her, and get even more physical, then you MUST understand how ATTRACTION works, and how to make women feel that powerful emotion.

If you don’t, then knowing all the fancy techniques in the world won’t help you.

It’s also VERY useful to understand what to do AFTER you’ve kissed a woman… the details of how to do OTHER, more INTIMATE things.

Where can you learn this stuff?

I recommend my online eBook

When you download the ebook, “ Double Your Dating“, you’ll also get three free bonus booklets. One of them is titled “Sex Secrets”. In that report, I explain in greater detail how to go from one step to the next with a woman, from the first kiss all the way to the bedroom.

The eBook is here:

Double Your Dating

I’ll talk to you again in a couple of days.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

In fact, this might be one of the areas that guys want to know the most about.

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking over the past year or so about the concept of being “cool”.

In other words, I’ve been watching people (myself included) to see if I could figure out why some people are considered “cool” while some are considered “not-so-cool”… and more importantly, how to use this idea to have more success with women.

So what is a “cool guy”?

And what is it about a guy who’s “cool” that makes women feel more attracted to him than an “uncool” guy?

Let me tell you a few quick mini-stories about guys I’ve known who were UN-cool.

One friend I used to have LOVED to argue with people. He would start arguments about anything and always take the opposite perspective on every topic. He did this with women all the time too. I think he felt like he was coming across as smart when he argued. Guess what? Women hated it, and ran as soon as he started in. His guy friends hated it too. He was UN-cool because his insecurity was so strong, that he had to argue to get attention.

Another friend I have always tries to do nice things and favors for women he likes. As soon as he meets a woman he likes, he tries to find something he can do for her. Of course, he then gets upset when the woman doesn’t return the feelings of affection… and he acts upset and “taken advantage of”. This, of course, makes women run away. As you can probably guess, he’s trying to manipulate women with favors. And women resent him for it. Women don’t think he’s cool, and they avoid him.

I know one guy who loves to tell women how beautiful they are, buys them drinks and dinners, and pursues them with the “You’re the greatest thing in the world and I’m going to chase you around and try to buy your attention”. And even though he’s doing a lot of “nice” things for the women he’s interested in, he can’t keep one around for more than a date or two. Even his guy friends think that he needs to calm down and act more
“cool” in general.

Now, all three of the guys I’ve mentioned above have different problems… but the way I see it, they’re all strangely related.

Here are a few more quick stories about guys I know who are “cool”.

One guy I know always has girls around him. In fact, I don’t think I’ve ever seen him WITHOUT at least one girl with him. Usually he has three or four girls with him… and sometimes up to 10 or 12. He always makes fun of the girls, teases them, and treats them like good friends who he’s comfortable enough to bust on. He’s not rich, he doesn’t buy things for women, and he doesn’t kiss up to them. He DOES, on the other hand, make it his business to know where the “cool” places are in town, where to go out, and who to call for the “inside track” on where the hot spots are. Then he shows up at the door to these hot spots with five women. EVERYONE who knows him thinks of him as a “cool” guy.

I have another friend that is really amazing with women. But he does something that’s rather unusual when he’s around women. He kind of IGNORES them when he first meets them. If he’s out with friends, and one of them introduces a female friend to him, he’ll shake her hand and say “hi”, then TURN AWAY and go back to whatever he was doing. Somehow, the women that are around him always want to talk to HIM. And all the guys he knows think of him as one of the coolest guys around.

Finally, I have one friend who literally says things to women like, “You probably wouldn’t like me. I don’t really have relationships with women. Our relationship will probably go no further than the physical…” If you’ve seen my Advanced DVD Program, you probably remember him saying these exact words when I’m interviewing him. He’s so calm and laid back around women that they have to pursue HIM… and it happens a lot. He’s blunt, direct, and honest about whatever is on his mind. He doesn’t chase women, buy them things, or smother them with compliments… and yet, they love him. And he has a crew of guy friends who all love him and think he’s one of the “coolest” guys in the world.

So what is it that separates the “cool” guys from the “uncool” guys?

What is “cool”?

What is it that makes a few rare people the kind of people that EVERYONE wants to be around?

What is it about UN-cool guys that repels other people, and makes women run away?

And what is it about this element that I’m calling “cool” that makes guys who have it attract more women than they can handle?

THE DEFINITION OF COOL

I personally think that being “cool” comes down to:

1) Being independent

2) Being indifferent

3) Being funny

4) Being socially adjusted

Before I get into each of these in detail, I want to mention something…

Usually, I tend to stick to techniques to help you meet more women, or give you advice to get past limiting beliefs, etc.

I’ve realized recently that there are a few BASIC, FUNDAMENTAL things that we, as guys, need to really “get” about interacting with other people before we start trying to learn advanced stuff, like how to approach and meet women. If you don’t have some of the basic things handled, all the fancy techniques in the world won’t fix your problem.

So stick with me here, this is important.

OK, so let’s talk about the four components that I mentioned above.

BEING INDEPENDENT

Independent is the OPPOSITE of “dependent”.

When you act “dependent”, you lean on others, you look to them for approval, you ask what they think before you make a decision, you tend to want to stay physically close to them, and your feelings tend to depend on what others feel and think of you.

When you act INDEPENDENT, you lean back, you do things because YOU decided you wanted to, you don’t ask others what they think - instead you decide yourself, you are fine walking away from your friends for awhile when you’re out, and your feelings are controlled by what YOU think, not what others think.

A “dependent” person will go into a bar with friends, stick close to them all night, ask what everyone else is drinking before they order, get upset easily about things that others say, and constantly be looking for attention and approval in some way.

An INDEPENDENT person, on the other hand, will go into a bar with friends and be more likely to… walk away and look around the place ALONE to see who’s there - and feel fine about leaving their friends for awhile and striking up a conversation with a stranger… They’ll order a drink if they want, or water if they want - and not care what everyone else is drinking… They’ll be cool and calm no matter what happens - even if others are getting upset around them… And, most importantly, they aren’t looking to others for attention and approval. They’re doing their own thing, and enjoying whatever happens.

BEING INDIFFERENT

Most people in this world are ATTACHED to the outcomes of things. They’re constantly worrying about what’s going to happen… and talking about the future in a fearful, uncertain way.

This type of person always wants to know what other people think of them, and they’re worrying about what they should do so other people will like them. Unfortunately, this almost ALWAYS comes across as INSECURITY.

An INDIFFERENT person, on the other hand, just goes about life and takes things as they come.

The indifferent person is INDIFFERENT to the outcome of whatever situation they’re in.

If it’s a man, and he’s approaching a woman, he will be OK with whatever happens. If she’s nice to him, great. If she’s uptight, no problem. If she’s rich, famous, and beautiful… and starts coming on to him, fine. No big deal.

When you are ATTACHED to the outcome of a situation, it makes you act all kinds of freaky. You pause, act nervous, hold back, look for approval, act insecure… and any of 100 other unattractive things.

On the other hand, when you’re INDIFFERENT to the outcome, it makes you MAGNETIC. Especially when it comes to women and dating. Indifference is the ultimate way to show a LACK of insecurity in life.

BEING FUNNY

Humor is magic.

It’s a complete mystery why we find things “funny” and why we “laugh”.

Crying because someone died makes some logical sense. It’s a bad thing, and crying expresses a negative emotion.

But when you see a dog run into a window because he doesn’t see it… and he gets a confused look on his face, you LAUGH. What’s with that?

Humor is interesting to me, in that if you’re funny, it makes people FEEL GOOD inside. They laugh, and it triggers positive feelings.

If you’re not naturally funny, it’s a great skill to learn. Read books. Watch live comedy. Do whatever it takes to learn how to be funny.

Most of the “coolest” guys I know are wickedly funny. Some of them are only funny on occasion… but they “get it”… and when they do make a joke, it’s DAMN funny.

BEING SOCIALLY ADJUSTED

I know that this sounds funny, but most of the people I know who are “UN-cool” are not very adjusted socially.

They lack a certain something in the “social skills” department that makes it OBVIOUS to others (and especially to women) that they don’t know how to relate very well to other people. They just never learned how to make others feel comfortable around them.

If you’ve ever known an accountant or computer programmer that was brilliantly smart, but totally boring, you know what I mean.

If people act kind of nervous, strange, and uncomfortable when they’re around you, then you also know where I’m coming from on this.

I can’t teach you how to make people feel comfortable around you in two sentences, but if you need to learn how to mix with people socially, then start PAYING ATTENTION to what’s going on around you.

Watch how others dress, carry themselves, walk, and talk. Pay attention to little details… like saying, “What’s up?” when you meet someone new, instead of “Hello, pleased to meet you” and such.

…now, is this all there is to being “cool”?

Of course not.

But it’s a great start.

If you can first get yourself to the place where other people want to be around you just because they enjoy your company, you’ll find that taking things to the next level with women will be about 10 times easier.

I’ve had this conversation with MANY of the guys I know who are successful with women, and they all basically say the same thing… you have to learn how to be “cool” and make others (women) feel comfortable just being in the same room with you. And if you’re “cool”, this happens almost instantly. If you’re not “cool”, then you’re going to have a hard time making ANYONE feel comfortable with you… never mind having a woman feel ATTRACTION for you.

Now, I also realized that a lot of the materials that I teach in my eBook and Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD Program are aimed at this EXACT topic.

Even though I don’t talk very much about this concept (I will in the future, though), you’ll notice that many of the techniques you’ll learn from my materials will help you in a lot of areas of your life… not just with women.

As a direct result of the things I’ve learned about how to be more successful with women and dating, I’ve ALSO become more successful at things like being invited to “exclusive” parties, having famous and successful people pursue me as a friend, and just generally being invited into more “exclusive” social circles.

Why is this?

Well, for one thing, people who know a lot of “cool” or influential people are very careful about who they “bring along” to gatherings with friends.

The LAST thing someone “cool” needs in their life is an “UN-cool” person making a jackass of themselves in front of all of their friends.

When you learn the art of being “cool”, you start to attract other cool people. And those people will see that you’re not insecure, emotionally unstable, clingy, and such. They’ll see that you know how to handle yourself with other people (and with women), and they’ll start introducing you to other cool people (including
women) instead of running away from you.

I know that this newsletter is going to ignite a whole series of letters to me about how learning these concepts has done exactly what I’m talking about for various guys (and I want to hear about it, by the way, so make sure you write in).

So, want more great ideas on how to be “cool”, and how to meet and date more women?

I thought so…

It took me a long time to figure out how to be “cool” around women… and how to make women feel that powerful physical and emotional response called ATTRACTION…

I can’t tell you how much I wish I could have known what I teach when I was younger. It’s taken me literally YEARS to put all the pieces together, and I invite you to take advantage of the time, effort, energy, and money I’ve invested to discover, refine, and organize all of the step- by-step techniques I’ve put together…

Where can you get all of this good stuff?

Even better, where can you get it with literally ZERO risk?

Inside my fantastic DVD and CD programs.

That’s where.

I mentioned my Advanced Dating Techniques program earlier. If you go through that program and find that you need to work on your “Inner Game”, then I recommend that you invest in my fantastic Inner Game programs. Start with my program, “On Being A Man… Who Naturally Attracts Women”.

This will give you a SOLID foundation for thinking and behaving like a guy who NATURALLY attracts women. You can get it here:

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You should also check out my program called “Deep Inner Game”. This program will give you an entire set of specific TOOLS you can use to do things like overcoming fear, improving your self-image, and creating a healthy sense of “self”. This stuff is MANDATORY if you’re going to become the kind of guy that women are MAGNETICALLY attracted to. All the details are here:

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And if you haven’t taken the time to downloadmy online eBook, stop and do that RIGHT NOW. You can download it and literally be reading it within a few minutes. Go download it here:

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I’ll talk to you again in a couple of days.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

Hello, I am reading your book now and it’s great, the cocky guy thing is working 100%. I actually got 5 #’s in 4 days! WOW :) Thanks! My Q is, I met a girl online, she gave me her #, I called her we met, got dinner, drinks, then made out! Cool stuff! She says she is having the greatest time, blah blah blah. When I kissed her, and made out a little, she then says, slow down its the first date. I felt bad for going on so fast. So I said sorry. When we went home (2 different directions) everything was cool, (looked like it at least) I said, “ok, thanks, great time blah blah” then i said “You want me to call u or u gonna call me?”

She goes “I’ll call u, u call me its all good” SO it ended good, (i think) NOW, Should I CALL HER the next day or not?

Thanks,

K.

P.S. she wants to go out to a different town with me for the weekend to have fun. HOW DO I ACT SO I DONT LOOK LIKE A WUSS AND EASY TO GET GUY!??!?!?

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, well ready yourself.

I’m about to do some of my “David D. Quack-Psycho-Analysis” on you. Emphasis on the Psycho.

In a one paragraph email, you managed to tell me about a MINIMUM of three major mistakes that you made with this particular girl. If I really thought about it, I could probably find another few in there as well.

So hug your inner child and tell him that everything is going to be OK before I verbally abuse him…

Here are the three mistakes that I noticed right off the bat:

1) Making out with her somewhere other than at your house (or her house).

2) Apologizing for making out with her.

3) Asking her if you should call her, or if she should call you.

I’ll address each one in a minute in detail, but first let me start off with some of my Quack theories.

One of the things I say a lot is “Women Aren’t Attracted To Wussies”.

I say this because:

1) It’s true.

2) If you don’t understand this principle, you’re likely to make mistakes that clearly “telegraph” to a woman that you’re a Wuss.

3) When it all comes down, if a woman doesn’t feel ATTRACTION for you, or you somehow manage to screw up and KILL the ATTRACTION she’s feeling… you’re done. Game over.

I think that most of us guys have these little secret beliefs that we hide from the rest of the world… and that we TRY to hide from women.

I was having an interesting discussion with a good friend today, and we were talking about how most guys act when they’re around an “attractive” woman.

Most guys do one of the following:

- Give attractive women a lot of compliments immediately.

- Kiss up to attractive women.

- Try to get attractive women to like them by buying them gifts, dinners and flowers.

- Chase after attractive women and let it be known that the woman is “a prize worth pursuing” right from the beginning.

- Hand over all of their power and status to attractive women.

Know what I’m talking about?

Have you ever seen a guy at dinner with a beautiful woman… and he’s obviously nervous about the whole situation… and you can tell that he’s doing everything he can to NOT screw up so he can get the woman’s approval?

Have you ever BEEN THAT GUY?

Yeah, me too. A lot.

Well, unfortunately, this kind of behavior usually BACKFIRES BIG TIME.

All of the little things that most guys do to get a woman’s approval send a clear message to the woman that:

“I’M A WUSSY. I DO NOT BELIEVE THAT YOU WOULD LIKE ME FOR WHO I AM, SO I FEEL LIKE I NEED TO RESORT TO EXTREME MEASURES TO GET YOU TO PAY ATTENTION TO ME.”

Now that I understand this particular aspect of male/female interactions, I can see the horrible results all around me.

At bars I watch guys walking up to women and giving compliments… or offering to buy drinks…and the women smiling politely thinking, “Oh, another loser”, and excusing themselves…

Quick Note: bars aren’t bad places to meet women. But you must know HOW to meet women in bars if you
want to succeed in this kind of environment.

I see men at dinner with their dates…DESPERATELY trying to get the women they’re with to show any sign of interest… but the women only become colder and less interested… And I know that the women are only getting ANNOYED at this behavior…

I read personal ads in the paper and online from men who are saying “Hey, pick me! I’m a great guy! No, really!”… and I know that the women reading these ads are saying to themselves “Yeah, loser”… and the guys are getting little or no response…

I think you get the picture.

The point I’m making is that when you do things like asking her if she wants you to call her or if she wants to call you… and apologizing for making out with her, you are making the same basic mistake.

Why would you apologize for making out with a woman?

I mean, think about it.

You’re not REALLY sorry… otherwise you would not have done it in the first place. Duh.

You were actually LYING when you said you were sorry. You were only sorry that she didn’t want to continue, man.

When you said, “I’m sorry”, what she HEARD was “Uh oh, I just screwed up. I’d better say something quick to fix this. I will put aside my own wants and desires, and say whatever you want to hear in hopes that you’ll like me and give me attention and approval”.

Really.

It’s actually even WORSE than that.

The reality of this situation is that when you apologized, you created a POWER SHIFT.

The power shifted from YOU to HER.

You felt it, and she felt it.

I guarantee that in the few seconds after you said “I’m sorry”, you felt a sinking feeling in your stomach and knew something was wrong. But I ALSO guarantee that she felt a little SURGE of power AT THAT VERY MOMENT.

At the same moment you were realizing that you just did something wrong, she was realizing that she OWNED YOU.

Unfortunately, she probably also felt a little bit of disappointment in you, because you were apologizing for something just to get her approval… and women don’t WANT to own men.

Heavy man, heavy.

And the SAME thing happened in the moment that you asked her if she wanted you to call her or if she wanted to call you (but probably to a lesser degree).

That’s one of those little moments where you basically said “Here, take the power. Tell me what you want me to do, and I’ll do it. You get to make the decisions. Please tell me that you want me to call you, because that will affirm that you like me”.

Keep this up, and you’ll probably wind up a boyfriend who she eventually cheats on… or, even worse, a boyfriend who she eventually marries and then divorces because you turned into a boring Wussy husband from hell.

So, my general advice to you is:

STOP IT!

Stop doing things that let her know that she OWNS you.

One of the best things you can do is learn to PAUSE before you respond to ANYTHING that makes you feel an “Emotional Wussy Rush”.

If she says something that indicates that she’s not happy with you or your behavior, PAUSE.

Don’t respond. Stay still. Keep the mouth shut and the brain operating.

If you have to, run everything through your mental “Wussy Analyzer”.

Decide if the response you’re going to give her is to get her approval, and if it is, STOP.

Don’t do things that hand over the power in the relationship. Don’t let the things a woman says shake you emotionally.

Finally, I want to address your mistake of making out with her somewhere other than in your house or her house.

I’m sure the reason is obvious, right?

One of the best things I’ve learned is that if you LEAN BACK when you’re out on a date with a girl, and don’t try to “make your move” early on, you’ll do MUCH better later.

You mentioned that you’re reading my eBook right now… and it sounds like you’re actually doing pretty well. If you’ve gotten five women’s numbers in four days, I think you’re going to live… lol.

Pay close attention, because in my eBook I share some KILLER techniques for making it completely “natural” for a woman to come back to your place, come inside, etc. and the exact steps to take, to take things to a “physical level” once you’re there.

Most guys totally screw this part up.

They go to all the trouble to approach a woman, get her number, call her, get a date, go on the date, pay for the date, spend all that time… and then have NO IDEA what to do next.

The reality is that if you just KNOW WHAT TO DO, and you’ve prepared in advance, you can easily take things to the next level… and give her an experience that will make her DEFINITELY call you back for another date.

Make sure you read the bonus booklets that came with Double Your Dating… especially “Bridges” and “Sex Secrets”. Those will teach you how to smoothly transition from one step to the next, and how to get a woman sexually aroused (a skill that almost NO men have).

…and if you’re reading this right now and you would like to learn the secrets of how to get a woman to come home with you and WANT to come inside with you after a date… and the exact steps to take once you’re there to make sure that you DON’T get a response like this guy… then you need to check out my eBook.

I have spent the last several years of my life learning from guys who are AMAZING with women, and figuring out all kinds of simple, easy-to-use techniques just like the ones I’ve mentioned for getting a woman to come home with you, getting a woman “turned on”, and taking things to a “physical level” in a way that she’ll enjoy. In my eBook I share dozens of these ideas.

You can download it right now, and be reading it in a few minutes… Just go here:

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I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

Greetings,

I’m considering investing in your program, but I have a question for you before I do. Essentially, I’m no longer looking to hook up with women left and right. In fact, I think I’ve met “the one,” but I’m having trouble making her realize this. I’ve been pursuing her for about five months (during part of which time she was away at school, but we kept in regular contact, at first through e-mail and, later, over the phone), and I get the sense that she’s very guarded about relationships. She’s *very* goal oriented (which is one of the
many things I love about her, BTW), and therefore very busy, and - I suspect - she’s been burned in the past, relationship wise.

At any rate, on a couple of occasions, it felt to me as if things were moving forward, and then she backpedaled; perhaps she “got spooked,” and took a big step back to protect herself. Most recently, we were out for the first time since she finished school, and - insofar as I was able to determine, I was getting the green light all night: at a movie, I slipped my arm around her and she leaned in, resting her head on my shoulder; later, we were at a club for a band, and when we were ready to leave, she reached across the table and held my hand for a while; on the way back to the car, it was pretty chilly, and when she complained about the chill, I stepped over and hugged her.

She responded by stepping into it: she pressed her face hard into my shoulder, and stepped into full body to body contact - hip to hip, shoulder to shoulder and everything in between. When we got back to her place, I moved to kiss her and she shied away such that it would have been *extremely* awkward for me to actually do so.

At any rate, we’ve gotten together since (in fact, I offered to cook dinner for her, and she somehow maneuvered it around such that I was *her* guest, and she cooked for me) and we talked a while. As I said above, I think she got a little spooked. She specifically said that she thought the relationship could’ve evolved into something romantic, but that it hasn’t, and she wasn’t sure why. At this moment, she says she doesn’t believe it will. We remain *very* close friends, but I still believe she’s the one, and I’ve told her that I’m still going to pursue this, and she’s keen on still spending time together (for her, for now, as close friends).

My question is this: do you believe your program can aid me in turning her around on this? If so, why?

Thanks,

B.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, sit down for this.

Hold on to something tight, because I’m going to yell at you for your own damn good…

YOU ARE TOTALLY MISSING WHAT’S GOING ON!

THIS WOMAN ACTUALLY LIKES YOU, AND YOU’RE SCREWING IT ALL UP BY ACTING LIKE A NEEDY WUSS BAG!

If you were closer, I’d slap you myself.

DUH!

Whew. Let me calm myself. As you know, I don’t usually get so worked up. That makes three exclamation marks in one email, and I haven’t even started lambasting you proper yet. (What is lambasting, anyway? And is that how you spell it? It’s such a great word. I really should look and find out.)

OK, I’m calm.

NOW, let’s have a little talk here…

The reason why this kind of situation bothers me is at least twofold:

1) Because I’ve been in it myself about a bazillion and a half times, and it sucks to be screwing something up and not even realize that you’re doing it.

2) I can tell from your email that you actually like this girl A LOT, and that she’s probably a fantastic woman… and I hate to see you working so hard against yourself… and screwing this up when it’s right there in front of you for the taking.

Before I tell you all the reasons why you most DEFINITELY should invest in my Advanced Dating Techniques program, let me give you a few pointers that might help you STOP screwing this up in the meantime.

OK, back to the basics.

Let’s take this from the top…

At the very beginning of your email, you said something that basically telegraphed EXACTLY what was going on here…

You said “…I think I’ve met “the one,” but I’m having trouble making her realize this. I’ve been pursuing her for about five months…”

You’re having trouble making her REALIZE this?

You’ve been PURSUING her?

Do you assume that at some point within the NEXT five months that she’s going to wake up one day and feel a powerful ATTRACTION for you because you like to chase her around and tell her how you feel about her?

Normally I’d make fun of you here, and tell you that you don’t get it… blah blah blah.

But for some reason I feel like I just have to lay things out for you directly.

Look, man… the reason why she’s telling you that she “doesn’t know why it hasn’t evolved into something romantic” is that she doesn’t FEEL IT.

She doesn’t FEEL IT.

Get it?

SHE DOESN’T FEEL IT!

She doesn’t feel ATTRACTION for you.

And you can’t CONVINCE her to feel it by chasing her around and telling her how you “feel” about her.

Attraction, as I always say, ISN’T A CHOICE.

Now, you’re acting like most guys who think things like: “If she only knew how I felt about her, she’d feel the same way” and “If I keep pursuing her, she’ll eventually see how much I love her” etc.

Well guess what?

AIN’T GONNA HAPPEN, HOMEY.

Right now you are playing what is referred to as a “losing game”.

Think of it this way. If you stop on the way home from work every day and buy a lottery ticket, you’ll win once in awhile. Hell, you might even be lucky one day and win big.

But your chances SUCK.

You’re probably going to lose a LOT more than you win over time.

Like I said, you COULD win big. There is a chance. But you probably won’t. And I mean probably with a BIG P.

I refer to the way that you’re acting as “Being a Wussy” (that’s the technical term… made it up myself).

When you act like a Wussy, you do things like:

-Pursue

-Cling

-Share “feelings”

-Act submissive

-Seek approval

-Pine away

This is WUSSY behavior.

It’s distinctly FEMININE in nature.

When guys act like this, they’re getting in touch with their inner little girl (and she needs a spanking in the worst way).

And are you ready for the WORST, WORST part?

When you act like this around a woman (and ESPECIALLY a “goal oriented” woman who’s probably smart and powerful like yours) they CANNOT feel the emotion of ATTRACTION towards you.

Women aren’t attracted to Wussies.

This is a UNIVERSAL truth.

And by the way that you describe your relationship with this woman, SHE REALLY WANTS TO BE ATTRACTED TO YOU!

She’s trying, man.

And she probably KNOWS that you’d be a great guy to be in a relationship with… but she just doesn’t FEEL IT… so she holds back. I’m sure she WISHES that she could be attracted to you. I’ll bet you money.

Look, you need to STOP acting like a nice friend guy Wuss IMMEDIATELY if you want this to turn into something.

You’re probably beyond help with this particular woman, but I’m going to give you a few ideas JUST IN CASE…

1) Stop calling her all the time (if you do), and stop spending so much time with her.

2) Start dating other women IMMEDIATELY, and make sure she knows about it.

3) Stop being all lovey with her, and don’t tell her how you “feel about her” anymore. Stop it.

4) Accept that you will probably be friends with her forever, and start acting that way.

5) Don’t try to kiss her or be physical with her at ALL anymore until you understand what you’re doing.

Remember, what you’re doing ISN’T WORKING.

If you do these things that I’ve described, you will probably have the best chance of turning this around.

NOW, the next thing you need to do is what you asked me about in your email… GET MY ADVANCED DATING TECHNIQUES PROGRAM.

You need a new perspective on this entire situation. And you need a new perspective on women.

You’re obviously a smart guy, and once you begin to understand how ATTRACTION works for women, you’ll change how you behave COMPLETELY.

Total transformation.

And the best part is that you won’t be changing how you act and just “faking it”. You’ll change how you act because you GET IT.

It’s really fantastic to HELP a woman feel that magical ATTRACTION for you that she REALLY WANTS TO FEEL.

And it’s also amazing to know exactly how to get physical with a woman without having to deal with the awkward “shy away from the kiss” situation that you described in your email.

Now repeat after me: I WILL NEVER ACT LIKE A WUSSY AGAIN!

If you want to make your dating life a whole lot better and easier, then stop and think about your behavior… and resolve right now to stop acting like a WUSS for the rest of your life.

Being “nice” and “accommodating” and “understanding” is great for friendships and social relationships, but it’s HORRIBLE for ATTRACTION.

An interesting, attractive woman doesn’t want a guy that she can push around. She doesn’t want a guy who does what she wants him to do. She doesn’t want a little boy that she can train and raise.

An interesting, attractive woman wants a MAN.

This doesn’t make LOGICAL sense, I know. But it’s the truth. These submissive qualities will only work in attracting a woman IF SHE LIKES DRESSING UP IN LEATHER AND WHIPPING HER MAN… AND CHARGING $400.00 AN HOUR!

And my guess is that this isn’t the kind of woman that you’re looking for.

If you want to stop ACTING like a WUSSY you need to eliminate your INNER WUSS for good and build a rock-solid confidence level that is NATURALLY attractive to women. So you also need to take a look at my Deep Inner Game program.

This program will eliminate inner challenges like insecurity, fear and anxiety that are holding you back from TRUE success with women. And as long as you have those kinds of fears you’re gonna continue acting like a needy wussbag.

So go take a look at some of the video clips from this program here:

Deep Inner Game

Now I’ve explained some of the important qualities that you need to cultivate in yourself if you want to attract women… and keep them attracted. Now get out there and start working on it.

…and if you’re reading this right now and you haven’t yet downloaded your copy of my online eBook “Double Your Dating”, I have something to tell you…

My eBook is the foundation for EVERYTHING that I teach in these newsletters, my Advanced Dating Techniques, and other programs.

And you need to read my Double Your Dating ebook, because it contains a lot of valuable material that sets the stage for everything else. It’s here, so go download it now:

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Like I said, if you’re just starting out, my ebooks and programs will show you things that you’ve never seen or heard before. You’ll get a completely new perspective on what it takes to be successful with women and dating.

If you’re already successful, my programs will make you BETTER. There are a lot of very advanced concepts included… and you’ll get to hear me interview guys who are AMAZING with women in my Advanced Series. In other words, no matter where you are with women, you’ll improve.

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

“I’m sure what you’re saying is right, but I don’t want to be a jerk or an a**hole to women…”

…or…

“I have seen what you’re talking about happen all my life, but I’m a ‘nice guy’ and I want women to like me for me…”

…and…

“This doesn’t make sense…”

For most of my life, I was THE nice guy of nice guys. As a matter of fact, when I first made the decision to learn how to be successful with women, this actually created an OBSTACLE for me.

Let me explain…

Because I believed that “being a nice guy” MUST be the way to success with women, I ACTUALLY COULDN’T EVEN PERCEIVE ANY OTHER WAY.

In other words, I could see a situation where a woman was attracted to a mean, abusive guy and think to myself that either she must be screwed up in the head, or THAT THE GUY MUST BE REALLY NICE TO HER THE REST OF THE TIME.

As you probably know, it’s hard to convince a person to believe something when they already have a belief about the topic. The person that you’re trying to convince just uses whatever you say to convince themselves that they’re actually right…and you’re wrong.

I did the exact same thing.

No matter how much evidence I found to the contrary, I still somehow believed that being a “nice” guy, buying women flowers and gifts, taking them out, and generally letting them be in control of the relationship HAD to be the way to attract them.

Well, after continuing along the same path and getting the same results, I realized something that literally changed EVERYTHING for me.

I realized that JERKS do, in fact, attract hot women.

Selfish behavior, as unhealthy as this might sound, often makes women feel attracted to you.

Sarcasm, ball busting, playing hard to get and all kinds of other “illogical” things really do work when it comes to attracting women.

But, then I had a dilemma…

I love the idea of being successful with women but, I HATE the idea of mistreating people, being mean to them, lying and being misleading, etc.

Deep down, I wanted to be a good guy.

I decided that there MUST be a way to make this work, and to attract women without being ABUSIVE.

The good news is that THERE IS a way.

But, it requires that you put aside your current ideas for just long enough to entertain some new ones.

First, let me say that I believe I’ve found a way to take the things that JERKS do to attract women and use them WITHOUT THE ABUSE. When you learn to do this, you can really have the best of both worlds… you can be nice to women on your own terms, and give them what they REALLY want, and what REALLY attracts them.

So, WHY DO WOMEN BECOME ATTRACTED TO JERKS?

The short answer is that they don’t CHOOSE it, it’s something that just HAPPENS.

ATTRACTION ISN’T A CHOICE.

It’s an emotional response to certain things.

Women don’t CHOOSE to feel the emotion called ATTRACTION for jerks any more than YOU choose to feel the emotion called ATTRACTION for young, beautiful, hard bodied women.

Nature has preprogrammed MEN with a mechanism that works like this:

SEE HOT WOMEN —> FEEL ATTRACTION

Well, women have a similar mechanism. But I think that the female version is MORE COMPLEX.

Yes, women do feel attraction for extremely handsome men… but they feel a MUCH STRONGER ATTRACTION for certain PERSONALITY TRAITS and BEHAVIORS than they do for physical looks alone.

So, again the short answer is that it’s just something that “happens” inside of a women. She doesn’t “choose” it.

So, what is it about the “jerk” that creates this powerful, uncontrollable ATTRACTION inside of women?

Let me answer first by telling you what IT’S NOT:

It’s NOT the abuse (not usually anyway). I don’t believe that women are attracted to that abusive, mean, negative part of the “jerk personality”.

I think that jerks JUST HAPPEN to also possess several ATTRACTIVE qualities that are SO POWERFUL that they literally make women BLIND to the abuse… women will rationalize and excuse the abusive behavior because they are so attracted to these other qualities.

Here’s a PARTIAL list of what creates that ATTRACTION:

• Unpredictable
• Uncontrollable
• Challenging
• Dominant

Of course, there are many more, but this will get us started for this discussion.

The qualities I’ve listed above, when presented correctly, trigger the natural “attraction mechanism” inside of women.

Jerks have taken natural qualities that are ATTRACTIVE to women a little “too far”.

But because they’re still there, the qualities trigger the attraction anyway.

So, what does this mean to you?

Well, the most important thing is that it means you can still be a good guy AND attract women at the same time.

You’re probably going to have to learn how to flirt in a different way, become a little more comfortable being challenging to women, etc. But, in the end, you’ll find that this will get you what you want and still allow you to treat women well… all on your own terms.

It also means that instead of being the guy who women talk to about their relationship problems and how their mean jerk boyfriend is being abusive again… you can be the guy who they’re dating and sleeping with!

Yes!

Now, I’d like you to take time to think about what I’ve said here in this newsletter.

Think about how you can cultivate the four qualities that I’ve mentioned above into your personality.

See if you can be a little less predictable.

Don’t let outside events or women control you.

Be more of a challenge.

Stop being submissive… and get in touch with that side of you that is more dominant (I said “dominant”, not “domineering”).

This will give you a GREAT head start.

And, if you’d like to learn how to master my very FAVORITE technique for creating attraction, then you need to go and check out my Cocky Comedy CD/DVD program.

Inside this program, you’ll learn how to make women laugh… and laugh in a way that creates ATTRACTION.

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If you want to learn how to master the technique that will get you results fast, then this is the one for you…

Here’s the deal.

I REALLY want you to see this program.

I am convinced that it will change your life, and help you meet more women.

I’ve set up my ordering system so that you can order my program, and NOT PAY ANYTHING up front for it.

In other words, you don’t have to decide now.

You can order it, watch or listen to it all the way through, THEN decide if you want to keep it.

If you don’t want it, send it back. No questions and no hassles.

If you want to keep it (and I’m betting that you will), you’ll make five easy monthly payments (so it’s easy on your budget).

The time is now, and the deal is UNBEATABLE.

Go watch some great preview video clips here:

Cocky Comedy

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

Keep reading, because this gets interesting…COMPLIMENTS OR NO COMPLIMENTS?

To compliment or not to compliment… that is the question.

Women tell us they want us to compliment them.

Your mom told you to be nice to girls, right?

And we guys like to really “turn up” the Compliments when we LIKE a woman…

But here’s the question:

Do compliments create ATTRACTION when you first meet a woman?

Most of the time the answer is NO.

I have a word for guys who like to give women lots of compliments when they first meet her.

That word is WUUSSY.

Recently, I got an email from a woman about this very topic that I thought would be the perfect way to introduce this and explain WHY compliments are not the way to build attraction…

***DATING QUESTION FROM A READER***

I agree that your “funny/cocky” routine works very well and women are attracted to it. Yet, I have to disagree with you on one aspect, women LOVE to be complimented. They live for it. Why else, but to get men’s attention and be complimented, do they spend hours getting ready, and buy all that sexy clothing? Sure, their faces light up when you make them laugh or they really have fun. But, how many times have you seen that special girl smile at you and kiss you like there’s no tomorrow when you tell her she’s the most incredible thing in the world and that she’s so beautiful you just can’t stop loving her? Probably never, because you think that’s a “wuss” thing to do. But, you don’t know how wrong you are.

J.

-IL

>>>MY COMMENTS

I love that women are out there reading and thinking about my material (especially the Cocky & Funny comment). Good stuff.

I’m going to break down the things you’re talking about into a few specific topics, then address them individually.

Here are the three that I’d like to address:

1) The idea that women LOVE to be complimented.

2) The idea that women spend all of their time and energy getting ready and fixing themselves up because they want compliments.

3) The difference between complimenting a “special” girl and complimenting just ANY girl.

Here are a few things to keep in mind as you read my commentary on this letter and these different topics:

A) We humans (and I’m talking about women in particular here) don’t always REALIZE what we REALLY want.

B) We humans don’t like to admit what’s REALLY going on inside of us, because it can be irrational and illogical.

C) It’s very important to realize that there is a CRITICAL difference between a girl you’ve just met or have dated a few times and a SPECIAL girl in your life.

So, let’s talk about the topics individually…

THE IDEA THAT WOMEN LOVE TO BE COMPLIMENTED

Do women love to be complimented?

I think so.

In fact, I think that many really ATTRACTIVE women FEED off of attention and compliments. The more attention and compliments they get, the better and more powerful they feel. It’s an ego boost.

BUT… and it’s a BUTTTTT bigger than J-Lo’s, this doesn’t mean that a woman will feel ATTRACTED to you if you give her compliments.

Attractive women get compliments in various forms all the time. In fact, they’re so used to getting compliments, that’s what they EXPECT.

As a matter of fact, if you start talking to an attractive woman and say, “Wow, you’re really beautiful. I mean, you’re like a goddess… are you a model or an actress?” etc., the most LIKELY response you’re going to get is her giving you the cold shoulder.

Why?

Because SHE GOT WHAT SHE NEEDED FROM YOU and you showed her that you’re JUST LIKE EVERY OTHER guy out there that will worship her for her physical beauty.

As a general rule, you ALWAYS want to avoid being mentally slotted into the “average” and “like all the other guys” category at ALL COST.

I have started conversations by giving a woman a compliment, but I NEVER let it become part of the actual conversation. If anything, I begin teasing and making fun of her looks as soon as possible, if she’s REALLY hot-looking. And I never give the compliment in a way that says, “I’m intimidated because you’re obviously very powerful and desirable.”

NOTE: If you want to learn how to master the art of “busting” on women and using teasing and cocky humor to create ATTRACTION, then you should go here and check THIS out (make sure you watch the videos):

Cocky Comedy

On to idea #2…

WOMEN SPEND ALL OF THEIR TIME AND ENERGY GETTING READY, FIXING THEMSELVES UP, AND DRESSING SEXY TO GET COMPLIMENTS

About 4 or 5 years ago when I was first learning about how to be successful with women, a good friend of mine said something that totally shocked me.

He said, “Women don’t dress up for men, they dress up for each other.”

I was stunned.

I couldn’t understand the logic behind this for the life of me. It still makes me shake my head when I think about it.

As it happens, I have lived in Southern California for a few years (San Diego and Los Angeles). This is a place where beautiful women from all over the world come to seek fame and fortune.

I have been able to see things and learn things here that would have taken much longer to learn if I had lived in other places, because I can see how attractive women interact with EACH OTHER more often.

If you put a group of attractive women together in a club or bar, and watch them carefully, you’ll see something interesting begin to happen…

The women will start doing “catty” things, like looking each other up and down with disgusted looks, making negative comments to their friends about how other women look, and trying to intimidate other women with their eyes.

Most men would never notice this subtle communication that’s going on between women, but if you look for it, you’ll find it.

The fact is that women don’t like to compete with each other on the football field, they compete to be the most attractive.

Men could really care less what a woman is wearing or how she’s dressed for the most part. Sure, it’s nice to see a woman dressed well, but it’s just not that important.

But for women it’s a whole different matter entirely.

Women, and especially attractive women, don’t like the idea that another woman is getting more attention than her. And women can tell very quickly if another woman is more attractive…this leads to “bitch looks”, negative comments, and other amazing displays.

To summarize, women don’t spend a lot of time fixing themselves up to get compliments, they do it to compete with and impress other women. Ask a few attractive, well-dressed women about this and they’ll tell you.

Finally, point #3…

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN COMPLIMENTING A GIRL YOU DON’T KNOW VERY WELL AND A “SPECIAL” GIRL

My topic is women and dating.

WOMEN AND DATING.

It’s not “women you’re in a relationship with” or “special girls” or anything of the sort.

After you’ve gone out with a woman for a few months or so, and she proves to you beyond the shadow of a doubt that she’s a great PERSON, then I think it’s great to consider making her your “special girl.”

And yes, the dynamics change at that point. You can be nicer… you can be more complimentary… you can do more thoughtful things… At this stage this kind of thing will have a different meaning (BUT, DON’T EVER TURN INTO A WUSSY!)

As I mentioned, if you start talking to an attractive woman and you immediately start with the “You are beautiful and I’m not worthy” routine, you shoot yourself in the foot.

There’s a HUGE opportunity in these first meeting situations, but most guys never even CONSIDER it because it’s not what comes naturally.

The thing to do when you meet an attractive woman is to actually TEASE AND BUST on her a bit, rather than giving her compliments.

This effectively scrambles her whole program and causes her to lose her composure. It takes her off guard and shakes her out of her world… so you can actually have a conversation.

Remember the newsletter awhile back with the guy who walks up to women and says, “Your fly is open”, then walks away?

The woman always comes and finds him to say, “You’re a JERK!”… and then he laughs at her…and the woman winds up going out with him.

Verrrrrry interesting.

Do you think it would work the same way if he walked up to women and said, “You’re amazingly beautiful” and then walked away?

I think not.

So in summary, it’s true… women do in fact like compliments. But, if you want to make a woman feel that magical feeling of ATTRACTION for you, then you might think twice about giving them too early on.

Women like compliments that they have to WORK FOR a lot more than the ones that just come to them.

…and if you’re reading this right now and thinking to yourself, “You know, I need to learn this stuff about how to meet and attract women so I can get rid of that insecure and fearful feeling I have”, then YOU’RE RIGHT!

I think that every man should invest in himself and learn this skill.

Unfortunately, most guys never take the time and invest in themselves… and they wind up going their whole lives WISHING that they could attract the kinds of women that they want.

Well, I used to be one of the guys who didn’t know what he was doing with women. Now I’m one of the guys who can go out anytime, in any situation and attract women.

What’s the difference?

I TOOK THE TIME TO LEARN.

And if you’d like to learn, then I recommend you learn the things that I learned FIRST.

It’s taken me a long time to figure all this stuff out and it’s also taken a lot of time, effort and energy on my part to put it all down on paper, and on audio and video… so that any guy can learn from the things I’ve discovered.

I’d like to personally invite you to check out my materials. In a matter of hours you can learn things that took me YEARS to figure out… all from the comfort and privacy of your own home.

If you tend to give compliments because you are looking for APPROVAL from women, I recommend that
you check out my program DEEP INNER GAME.

It condenses a hundred years of concepts from psychology, behavior, and inner change… and then focuses and interprets all of this wisdom… and gives you a step-by- step, fool-proof system for overcoming inner challenges, dealing with fears, and building a more powerful and confident self image.

There is truly nothing else like this program anywhere in the world… and you can check out all the details (plus watch some great video clips of the program) right here:

Deep Inner Game

Lastly, if you haven’t read my original ebook called Double Your Dating, then you need to do that RIGHT NOW. It’s the FOUNDATION for everything I teach in these newsletters, and for everything I teach in my Advanced Series. It’s a “must read” and you can download it online and be reading it in about 5 minutes… right here, right now:

Double Your Dating

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo

First, I’m going to ask you to consider something, then I’m going to give you some homework.

This week is all about ACTION!

Here’s the thing I want you to consider first:

I was reading an article on AOL titled “What’s Wrong With Nice Guys?”… here’s a little quote from the article:

“…Do Women Date Naughty Guys but Marry Nice Ones? This notion sounds an awful lot like the irritating good-girl/bad-girl distinction that men continue to make. Still, it does contain a nugget of sense. Since women truly are conditioned to be “good girls,” sometimes we feel uncomfortable with or guilty about that pure burning “I must have him!” feeling. That’s why we sometimes seek out a bad boy to serve as the object of these desires, says Cleveland psychotherapist Belleruth Naparstek, creator of the Health Journeys series of guided imagery tapes. “In order for the deliciousness of pure lust to be ‘okay,’ it has to be for the symbolic bad boy who has nothing to do with the rest of your life. With him, you can crank up your animal impulses, worry-free,” she says….”

Interesting, isn’t it?

Now, I personally disagree with the idea that women “seek out” Bad Boys because they need somewhere to “project their guilty lust”… and I disagree with the idea that there’s something “wrong” with the fact that women are attracted to Bad Boys…

But the point is that the “mainstream” psychology and behavior world is starting to accept the idea that women are ATTRACTED to “Bad Boys”.

It will probably be another ten years before anyone with a degree puts two and two together and says, “Hey, maybe women feel ATTRACTION towards Bad Boys for natural, evolutionary reasons, and that’s why Bad Boys are considered “sexy”…”

Hell, maybe I should say it… Oh wait, I already did…

Whatever.

Point is, there’s something to the idea that woman don’t feel that powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for “nice” guys who chase after them and kiss up to them.

Women do, on the other hand, feel that magical emotion called ATTRACTION for BAD BOYS.

Of course, I don’t believe that you MUST be a jerk, or abuse women in order to make them feel attracted to you. There’s a much better way…

OK…now for THE HOMEWORK…

Here’s what I want you to do…

If you own my eBook “ Double Your Dating“, go to chapter 4, and read it again.

(If you don’t own it yet, then you need to get it immediately! You’re cheating yourself if you don’t invest in YOURSELF in this area…really.)

Now, I want you to do something CONSCIOUSLY this week.

I want you to do the following with the next 5 women that you talk to over the next few days… (these should be women that you would be interested in dating):

1) Smile all the time.

2) Be very nice, cordial, and friendly. Use no sarcasm, and don’t tease.

3) Act as if you really “like” the woman you’re talking to… and as if you’re “interested” in her.

4) Give her lots of compliments.

5) Optional: Politely say, “You probably have a boyfriend, right? Can I take you out sometime?”

Pay careful attention, and notice how the women respond to you.

Now, I want you to try something different with the NEXT 5 women you talk to…

1) Don’t smile very often.

2) Pretend that you’ve known her for 20 years, and that you’re TOO comfortable around her. Tease her for something that no one teases her about… like the way she dresses, etc.

3) Pretend that she’s interested in YOU, and has been pursuing YOU, and that you’re resisting her. Make jokes about it and say things like, “I just don’t think things are going to work out between us”.

4) Give her NO compliments of any kind. If she gives you any say, “That’s a cheesy pick up line. Can’t you think of something more original?”

5) Optional: Say, “Hey, do you have email? Good. Write it down here…”

…and pay attention to the difference.

If you really “play it up”, you’ll notice a HUGE difference between the first five women you talk to and the next five.

During the first set of five, when you’re being a “Nice Wuss”, you’ll see the looks on the women’s faces that say, “Oh no. Another guy who “likes” me. How can I get rid of him politely?…”

During the SECOND set of five, you’ll see the women opening their mouths with the “half smile, half oh-no-you-didn’t-just-say-that” look. You’ll feel a TENSION in the air. You’ll notice that some of the women will actually look at you as if they can’t believe what they’re hearing.

If you’re particularly sharp and funny, you might just have one or two of them say, “I like you… we have to hang out sometime” within the first few minutes of the conversation. By the way, you will NEVER hear that when you’re playing the “Nice Wuss”.

(SIDE NOTE: I once went out with some friends and while taking pictures of them, I overheard this girl talking to her friend. I took what she and her friend were talking about and I teased her about it… And within no more than 60 seconds the girl was saying, “Ohmygod, I like you! We need to hang out sometime…” - Really.)

Do your homework! And have FUN while you’re at it.

Alright now. If you haven’t downloaded your copy of my eBook, then get to it…

You’ll learn more in a few hours of studying my materials than most guys will learn in their whole LIVES about how to attract women.

It comes with an “offer you can’t refuse” and I’m serious…

You can try them at ZERO cost… nothing.

If you’re not thrilled and you don’t meet more women, you don’t have to pay a dime.

You can download the eBook here right now:

Double Your Dating

I’ll talk to you again in a couple of days.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo